Are you ‘hurting’ enough to want to change? Change can be scary and it is often fear of the unknown that holds us back.

Are you ‘hurting’ enough to want to change? Change can be scary and it is often fear of the unknown that holds us back.

Everything that happens outside of ourselves, (our external environment,) that solicits a reaction from us is an opportunity for us to learn more about ourselves.

We are able to learn so much just by becoming more aware of how we react to different situations, different people and the different environments that we interact with.

So how is life working out for you?

Are you currently having a wonderful experience?

Do people, locations, and situations where you spend most of your time make you feel uplifted or drain you of vital energy?

In other words, is the lifestyle you are currently living supporting your overall quest for a healthy, abundant, and fulfilling life, or would you prefer it if some things were different?

Successful life

Our current life is the creation of our past thoughts: Consistent positive thoughts will create a positive life experience and vice versa.

It is important to realize that it is our own subconscious programming that guides us to seek out situations to fulfill our beliefs about ourselves and about life in general.

Our beliefs/programming are just a collection of ideas that we have adopted from those with influence over us as we were growing up. Some of us refine these beliefs over time to incorporate new ideas and thoughts that we have. But for the majority of people, these core programs remain buried deep below the conscious level of thought.

From here, if these beliefs revolve around creating unworthy and self-limiting thoughts they will continue to guide our lives in an unconscious way so that we are never content, fulfilled, or abundant in any significant way.

If you come home feeling depleted each day, you need to start considering why you are surrounding yourself with situations, people, and events that bring you down by depleting your vital energy.

Often we do this because it is ‘comfortable’ for us to feel this way. Our subconscious programming considers that this is what we ‘deserve.’ However, we don’t deserve anything. This is just the life we have accepted for ourselves based on habits or beliefs formed in the past.

We will begin to benefit immensely when we realize that we don’t have to keep believing these beliefs, and it’s definitely in our best interest to get rid of the beliefs that are limiting our ability to have a wonderful fulfilling life experience.

So, if you are not happy with your life in general, or certain aspects of your life, choose now to take steps to begin changing your thoughts, and this will ultimately create new beliefs which will, with time, result in creating a new and better life experience for yourself. Why would you not want to do this?

Read my post here, ‘How to have a better life by overcoming negative thinking’ to learn how you can begin doing this for yourself right now!

What is your worth?

You are a VIP and you can have it all: However, you will only receive according to what you think you are worth!

It may not seem so at times, but we always have options available to us. For example, if you are not happy about going to work every day, you may want to consider changing jobs. It is soul-destroying to wake up and think ‘another day doing stuff I wish I didn’t have to do,’ and another 4 days of this until my day off. Only 45 more weeks of this torture until my annual holiday!

What impact do you consider these constantly repeated negative thoughts have on your state of mind and general physical wellbeing?

If your relationship is not making you jump with joy, not making you warm and fuzzy on the inside, then do something about it. Why do we settle for situations that continually make us unhappy?

Often we will consider that ‘the devil we know is better than the devil we don’t know.’ Maybe this is just another example of a false belief you are holding onto that is affecting your ability to be completely happy?

Our acceptance of bad situations, our procrastination, and our bad habits are ways for us to not fully committing to life and they make a significant negative impact on our overall life experience.

However, we can create better than this. We just need to wake up and realize that our situation is our choice! Start now by making better choices for yourself. Start believing that your life has enormous value and you deserve to have a great life experience! The choice is yours, and yours alone.

Are you hurting enough to want to change?

Are you hurting enough to want to change? Don’t let fear of the unknown hold you back from having a better life experience!

Our desire to change and our motives for change are either pulling us forward towards something more pleasurable or pushing us forward by the desire to avoid that which is painful.

If we are currently feeling dissatisfied with some aspects of our life but are not yet ready to change, it is either because we are not in enough pain, or the perceived benefits of doing something different are not yet great enough to compel us into action.

Unfortunately, most of us resist change until our present situation is so bad that we have no choice but to try something different. So when we can no longer tolerate the amount of pain we are feeling, we begrudgingly may move in a different direction and risk being exposed to that which is still unknown.

The unknown is OK! I know most people tend to gravitate towards that with which they are familiar, but we never learn anything new by doing this. If you continue to do the same things your life will tend to continue relatively unchanged in the future. Is this what you want for yourself, more of what you currently have?

Or are you willing to face your fear and take a new road in the hope of creating a better future for yourself?

Dream big and face your fears

How to have a better life: Dream big, face your fears and overcome them!

Everything is always changing. This is just the nature of life!

Every day is a new day and with it, we are offered many opportunities and possibilities that we didn’t have yesterday. If we can learn to embrace the unknown, with eager anticipation, I guarantee that you will soon be living a better life.

The future is many possibilities with many different roads to choose from. If we find ourselves feeling stuck, we should just choose the best possibility and start moving. There are no wrong directions in life and there is no such thing as a mistake, only more opportunities to learn.

Sure, there may be times when things don’t work out the way we hoped that they would, and that is OK as long as we learn from the experience. We can then pick a different road to travel on for a while, and then we can change direction as often as we like.

We have been given the gift of free will and therefore the universe/Prime Creator/God never judges our choices, but there are always consequences. The consequences of our thoughts, words, and actions are for us and will manifest in our life, either negatively or positively depending on the actions chosen. So, it pays to always think, ’is what I am about to do going to take me closer to being the person that I want to be?

Is what I am doing going to improve my life, and the lives of others around me, or is it going to reduce my quality of life?

Once we lose the fear we have regarding change, and embrace variety and new experiences into our lives, our lives will suddenly become a whole lot brighter and larger than they were before. Then even more opportunities for change that we could not previously see will present themselves for our consideration.

The law of attraction says that we attract more of what we are, and someone embracing growth and learning will attract more of the same into their lives.

Game of life rules

How can I change my thoughts to create a better life for myself? Learn the rules of the game of life to understand how to win

It’s important to always be considering what is best for you and best for the environment in which you are interacting, (family, friends, work, social activities, etc.) It is always beneficial for us to choose thoughts, words, and actions that will uplift us and those around us and take us above the ‘middle line.’

What is the middle line?

Visualize a line drawn horizontally across the center of a blank piece of paper. This line is where we are now. It represents your accumulation of energy up to this point in your existence, what can be thought of as your current state of wellbeing, or your personal vibrational frequency.

‘Positive’ thoughts and actions will elevate us above this line and enhance our energy, whereas any ‘negative’ thoughts we have and actions we take will reduce our energy below this line which results in a lowering the quality of our life experience.

This line is constantly fluctuating and is always in perfect tune with every thought we have, word we speak, and every action we take.

Imagine if we could be aware of this all the time and use it as a gauge to improve our life?

Well, the good news is that we can!

We can start now by becoming aware of our thoughts and then assessing if they will help us in a positive way or will actually impact negatively on our energy levels.

Most changes are very subtle and not necessarily felt by us but their effect is always cumulative. If we can become aware of our own energy in relation to our health and wellbeing we will always have the opportunity to help ourselves. Thinking and acting positively at all times not only helps us but also has a positive effect on all those around us. So if you want your family life to improve, begin by changing yourself into a more loving positive role model.

Most of us are aware of the elevated sense of well-being we feel when we have done something to positively help ourselves or others. This is our energy level being raised above the position where it was before.

Conversely, when we do something that does not benefit us we may feel a resulting decrease in well-being. Often people with low self-esteem will choose negative thoughts and actions as a form of self-punishment, thereby reinforcing what they already feel about themselves.

The Middle line can be used for decision making. Is what I am doing, thinking and feeling going to elevate my energy, or lower it? What can I do to bring about positive change in my life?

It may be as simple as a kind thought, a smile, an action instead of inaction, or setting something in place that will continue for a longer period of time. A good place to start is to feel happy and share that with others. Happiness can be contagious and is never decreased when shared therefore elevating the energy levels of those we share it with.

Positive thinking

How can knowing this help me? The power of positive thinking will change your life!

Two people can be doing what may seem to be the same action and have very different result on an energy level. The resulting effect on their middle line from any thought or activity is dependent on the energetic intention of the person doing the action.

There may be two colleagues working side by side in a factory assembling some electronic components. One may be there because it is the only job they could get, and they needed the income. Their thoughts may be consistently tuned into what was on TV last night, what is for dinner, what the kids are going to do in the weekend……

The other may spend his/her time thinking that the product the component goes into is of high value and important for many people, so they will be considerate and do the best job they can all the time. Their attention will be focused on taking pride in doing a good job.

Which finished product would you rather buy? I know which one I would prefer.

The answer should make us think about the activities we do each day and how much focused loving attention we are putting into our daily lives. If the answer is ‘not much,’ then it may be beneficial for us to make some changes in either the things we are doing, that we are not giving our full attention to, or we could change the way we think about the activities we are doing.

Some activities are essential for living and cannot be avoided, such as eating. If preparing food, choose healthy food over food with low nutritional value. Appreciate that you have food to eat and are able to feed your family because so many in the world are starving every day. Give your loving attention to choosing, preparing, and presenting the food as it will be providing nourishment to those who consume it.

Even if they do not recognize that it has been selected, prepared and presented with love and appreciation, the food will still be energetically better for them because of the loving intent that you put into its preparation.

Isn’t it better to sit and share a meal with people who are in a positive frame of mind compared to a bunch of angry unhappy people?

Life is simple really. What you put out, you will get back! If you want a better life, just choose to have a better life and start doing the things now that will attract to you what you want in the future.

This means changing your thoughts, words, and actions starting now to align with how you see your future self being!

 

I would love you to leave any thoughts you have on changing your life for the better in the comments section below.

Shared with much love and respect for all beings,

Andrew

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  1. Hi Andrew,

    Great post! loved it. I have started a new business and I am going through ups and downs emotionally so this really helps. Some days things are going great and other times not so great. I am learning to find that real inner balance and I am growing and changing by not letting my emotions control me. Once we have our power back we can really feel ourselves on top of our game again.

    The more you rein the emotions in the easier it gets next time. I love change whereas most people reject it. Open up and flow with it and life will be an adventure 🙂

    Cheers mate.

    Kev

    1. Hey Kev. Good for you starting a new business. You know, if it was easy, everyone would be doing it! It’s so important not to let our decisions be ruled by our emotions. Keep a clear head and remain focused and you will succeed. Best wishes to you mate, enjoy the growth that change brings and you are assured of an adventurous life.
      Andrew

  2. Andrew Thanks for writing another inspiring blog: just love positive affirmation at the start of the day. Creepy but I look in the mirror and I say You are amazing and so am ! To your continued success

    1. Hi Hannah. That’s a really good affirmation early in the morning- nothing creepy about it. I bet it makes you feel good and then you can channel that positive energy into your day. Thanks for sharing. Cheers,
      Andrew

  3. Good topic, I always believed that positive thinking is the best way to
    deal with life. Letting fear to conquer us is very dangerous…
    We have to fight back and let ourselves to see the light.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it is inspiring

    1. Hi Marian. Thanks for taking the time to read my blog. It’s interesting that we can believe that thinking positive is the best option, and other people just don’t seem to get it. Yes, it is a personal choice to see the light, and we have to let others make the decision on their own, in their own time. I hope to see you back soon. Kind regards,
      Andrew

  4. Hi,

    I’ve been listening to Eckhart Tolle’s teachings on YouTube about staying in the ‘now’. But I find it nearly impossible to do.

    Do you have any tips or practical guides for doing this? Maybe an audiobook or something?

    Cheers.

    1. Being in the moment is something that we learn progressively. For most people, in the beginning, it is difficult for their busy minds to remain in the present for even a minute or two. The more we practice by consciously returning our attention to how we are feeling and what we are thinking, the easier it becomes, and eventually, through habit, it becomes our ‘normal state of being.’ My advice is simple as always. It is to just become aware of your breath, more often. By becoming still and being quiet we can use our breath to connect to our feelings. Our feelings tell us what thoughts we have been having as the two are intimately connected. The more you practice this simple act of being self-aware, the more you are connected to ‘this moment’ or ‘now.’ I hope this helps. Please feel free to leave any further questions. I wish you all the best on your journey.
      Andrew

  5. I could not agree with you more that our thoughts come from those we saw above us growing up. We are a social construction of those we surround ourselves with. Sometimes we do not have much choice. The best option is to attempt to manage the thoughts inside our heads.

    To make my life better, I personally like to take a weekly hike, anything to get me outdoors and into nature. I find I feel a lot better afterwards. The stresses of school fade away and I am energized afterwards. It is invigorating. The trees sway in the wind and the fresh air calms me down. Life is nice.

    Thank you for sharing and I hope you make it a great day!

    1. Hi, Alex. Yes, we were heavily influenced by those who surrounded us when we were growing up. Do we have a choice in this? That depends on what you believe. As a newborn baby without any beliefs or the ability to think, no we do not have a choice as to which information we choose to absorb. Our young minds are like a sponge until we reach the age of seven. So everything we are exposed to ‘gets in.’ However, I believe that we are more than this collection of skin and bones, thoughts, memories, and emotions. It is our spiritual aspect or our soul, that guides us to be born in the perfect environment to learn the perfect lessons to continue our growth and development. If we were aware of this, the game of life as an education center for our soul development would be ineffective. So we as young humans are left to flounder in the dark, so to speak. Thanks for taking the time to read my post. As you say, life is nice. Enjoy yourself, my friend. Say hi to the wind and the stars for me 🙂 Kind regards,
      Andrew

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