Are you living the life you want? Or are your beliefs limiting you to a second-rate life experience?

Beliefs create reality

The reality, that we as individuals see, is a very small portion of all that is happening around us. It is shaped by our own personal experiences, perceptual habits, and memories.

In a complete scene of any moment in time, anywhere, we will choose to perceive and retain a limited amount of information which will be different from others standing right next to us. And what we perceive actually amounts to us making guesses about it- and our mind filling in the blanks to create a story around it.

Our story will be different to everyone else’s story but there will be some common information which we agree upon which forms a consensus reality.

It is within our personal reality that we find the substance that we need for our continued growth. Although we may not necessarily like our current circumstances, they are of our own making. Each one of us has personally created our own reality as it currently is, and each one of us has the ability to change this reality in any way we choose.

repetitive behavior

Our repetitive thoughts create our beliefs: Our beliefs cause us to behave in specific predictable ways

Our body is the vehicle that our soul inhabits in this time/space to have this current physical experience. Our experiences change as our thoughts change, as we are creating all of our experiences with our thoughts. It is our thoughts that guide us to do this or that, to go here or there, or to love this person or that person.

So every time we make a choice it moves us in one direction and away from other directions that other choices would have taken us. Therefore, it is our thoughts that have guided us to create our present reality.

As such, we are living the results of our thoughts and therefore we are able to change our life simply by changing our thoughts or choosing one of the many other options available at any given time.

It is the constant repetitive thoughts that create our belief systems. And it is our strongly held beliefs that have the most power in creating our current life because they determine how we will act most of the time. Our current beliefs are a direct accumulation of how the majority of our thoughts have been in the past.

It can be lucky for us that the occasional fleeting thoughts that enter our mind do not have much power to create our reality. However, this also means that if we are generally a pessimistic person we will not be able to create a more positive life experience by having a few uplifting optimistic thoughts.

Creating meaningful change requires a concerted effort so we can first become aware of our existing thought patterns. Once we can begin to see a pattern in how we think, we can begin to understand that the life we are living now is a result of the repetitive thoughts (that align with our subconscious beliefs) that we have been having.

young boy meditating

Use mindfulness techniques to help become aware of your personal reality

Try this simple exercise. Stop; become aware of your breathing. Breathe with intent, slowly, deeply and in a relaxed manner, keeping it comfortable. Stop and breathe…… Often!

Become aware of your thoughts, watch them often.

Most of the time we will find that our mind will be running away on its own.

Responsible parents do not let their children run around at their own discretion to do whatever they want. Parents tend to believe it is in their children’s best interests that they are educated and controlled in regards to what they consider are the right ways to behave, act and think. How much more important do you think it is that we take control over our own mind? It is after all solely responsible for creating your reality! (Therefore it’s really important.)

We should be the master of our mind. However, without a doubt, the average person is not aware of the workings of their mind for the majority of the time. We could all benefit by exercising greater control over what we are thinking.

We would benefit greatly by considering what we are thinking about all of the time. Where did our beliefs come from and do they serve our highest good? If not, then we can start to think some different thoughts to create a better future for ourselves and therefore others around us. Any positive changes must be repetitive and consistent and be followed up by action to have a lasting meaningful impact on the direction our life is taking.

If thoughts about regrets, lost opportunities, ‘I should have, I could have,’ etc. are replaced with thoughts of love, self-appreciation, acceptance, compassion, and forgiveness, we will gradually change our beliefs, our body, and our life for the better.

Contemplation, meditation, and mindfulness focusing on the positive things we currently have in our life will give us immediate benefits in the way of feeling more optimistic.

Spending time alone in quiet contemplation where we become aware of our thoughts will help us to become more conscious of our own inner programming. This is the first important step to changing away from a personal reality that we are currently not happy with.

Time to analyze our thoughts and contemplate their effect on our lives is very important to us if we want to take control of our mind and subsequently our life.

spirit, soul

Do you know who you are? Do you know how to feel good about yourself?

So, change your thoughts to change your life!

Easy to say! However, it takes time to undo the damage that has been created by taking on the beliefs that have been constantly fed to us by parents, teachers, friends, media, government, etc.

Changing the way we live, to become aware of why we continue in the cycles that we do, will give us more freedom in the future- freedom to make choices based on what can really bring contentment, fulfillment, and peace to our life.

What we think about ourselves is a vital component to the quality of life that we are living. Our mind (through thoughts) is constantly reprogramming our body to create our future physical self and all the circumstances of our life. Therefore, having or creating a positive self-image is very important.

When looking in the mirror, what do you see?

What do you think about yourself?

Most people have been taught that it is somehow wrong and selfish to love ourselves. However, we need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. If we do not love our self, how can we expect anyone else to love us? After all, we must be thinking that there is something wrong with us for us to withhold love from our self.

If we can become aware of the conditions we impose upon loving our self, we can, in reality, begin to take control by changing our patterns of thinking so that we can begin to love our self more and more. Once we do appreciate and respect our self, then we will command the same respect from others for our self and we will also be able to express more love for others than previously possible.

Our excuses limit us

Our excuses for ourselves are based on false beliefs we have about ourselves

By listening to our self-talk and watching the thoughts in our mind, from a third person perspective, we can become aware of what we think is actually wrong with us. Our self-talk may be saying things like ‘I’m too old, I’m too fat, thin, short, tall, too stupid and too clumsy,’ or an endless array of other excuses to find fault with our self.

These are just beliefs we have taken on board as we were growing up. It does not mean these beliefs are true! It just means that we choose to believe them. Stop it now, and begin to create new beliefs that will support you in creating the future that you actually desire for yourself.

Your powerful, magnificent mind believes everything that you program it with! Our personal truth is just a matter of what we choose to believe at any given time! It is that simple.

If you choose to believe that you are worthy to have a fantastic life your subconscious mind will seek out opportunities to make this your reality.

Dream life

The law of attraction can be used to our advantage: Knowing it allows us to consciously create the dream life we desire

We get back in direct proportion to what we put out! In this respect, individuals are in control of their own salvation, which is their release from the cycle of birth and rebirth.

It can be comforting to know that it is our own choices that control our destiny. In this life, or the ones previous or after, it is our thoughts leading to actions that have put us in the perfect situation that we currently find ourselves, so we can continue to learn.

We have earned both our good fortune and tragedy. Once we accept responsibility for the situation we currently find ourselves in we can begin to make changes for our future benefit. If however, we do not believe we are responsible for our situation, we will continue to look outside of ourselves for release from our current situation and never find it, but instead bind ourselves tighter to the consensus illusionary reality that currently exists on Earth- one that says that we are not in control of our own lives!

All enlightened teachers throughout the ages have said this in their own words.

The Bible says it like this: “Whatever a man sows, this he will also reap” (Galatians 6:7). This advises that we have total control over our own future. The apostle Paul wrote in Galatians 6:8-9, “The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.”

This is mirrored by those who believe in Karma, which is the universal law of cause and effect. Buddhism, Hinduism, Jainism, Sikhism, and Taoism all have a long history of understanding how the intent and actions of an individual actor directly and uncompromisingly influence the future of that individual. They understand that all thoughts and actions carry energy and therefore have consequences that have brought us to the life we are currently living.

Written in the 7th Century BCE, the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, 4.4.5-6, of Hinduism states:

Now as a man is like this or like that, according as he acts and according as he behaves, so will he be;

a man of good acts will become good, a man of bad acts, bad;
he becomes pure by pure deeds, bad by bad deeds;

And here they say that a person consists of desires, and as is his desire, so is his will;
and as is his will, so is his deed;
and whatever deed he does, that he will reap.

Choice, decisions

How do I have a better life? Our remedy to a sub-standard life lies in the decisions that we make each and every moment of every day

So, if we do not appreciate our self we will attract towards us ‘like’ energy. In essence, we become a magnet for others who will also not appreciate us. Energy is perfect and can only behave according to the natural laws of the universe and it can never be wrong. This is why some of us feel comfortable in certain environments, or with certain people, and others prefer different environments and the company of other people. Like attracts like.

Become aware of what music you listen to, what TV you watch, what movies you like, where you like to hang out, and with whom. Everything is just energy vibrating at different frequencies. At times, it will be uplifting and other times we will be pulled down.

We can always choose to be lifted up. So why don’t we? It is us who chooses what to do with our time and where to focus our energy, and it always serves our highest good to choose uplifting thoughts and experiences.


Shared with light and love with the intention of helping to create more love and joy in the lives of individuals so they can help others with the intention of creating a more positive life experience for all beings.


16 thoughts on “Are you living the life you want? Or are your beliefs limiting you to a second-rate life experience?

  1. This was an awesome and super informative post, Andrew! Thank you for all of your insightful words and for spreading this message to others. I am still in the process of trying to attract better things in life through my thoughts… it is tough at times to have this discipline and consistency, but it is so necessary in order to live a good life.

    1. Hi Ashley. It sounds like you know how to do attract the things you want to create a better life for yourself, but as you say it can be hard to be consistent. The thing to understand is that life is a journey, and if you had all of the answers and everything sorted out now, then you would not actually have to be alive. So while you are here try and enjoy the journey as much as possible. We all falter at times, but hey, that’s how we learn more about ourselves. Remember, be nothing but loving and kind to yourself at all times and you will have a great life experience.
      With love and respect to you,

  2. Great content Andrew!
    I feel I connected a lot with this post, there is times I lose focus on myself and I find myself having to recoup. One thing that does help me A LOT is when I do what you mentioned earlier, spend time alone!
    Thanks so much for this great content, you have an amazing writing style!
    Keep up the great post’s!

    1. Hi Anna. Many thanks for the inspiration by saying that I have an amazing writing style 🙂 I shall keep it up! As you understand, time out, or time alone is so important to our general wellbeing. It is made even better when we use that time to consciously connect with our inner being and nature. I wish you well on your journey. Kind regards,

  3. This is incredibly relevant and absolutely mind blowing information. I have always felt this way about the subconscious, I generally refer to it as the ether but the same thing nonetheless. So much of what happens to is governed by a force we have to tame in order to have any hold over it. Most people are toy soldiers letting their mind be sculpted by outside sources instead of harnessing it and using it as a barrier against the things we don’t want and a path to the things we do.

    This was truly a great article.

    1. Hi Stan. You have a great way of explaining this concept. Short, sweet and to the point. For some reason we are taught about so many things from a young age, but never taught how to use our most important asset…… or incredibly powerful mind. We would all be leading much happier, healthier, wealthier and wise lives if we use it to get the things we want. Cheers mate, and thanks for sharing.

  4. Wow, such an inspirational read.
    I totally agree on shaping our thoughts and be aware of the ANT (automated negative thoughts) that a lot of us are not aware of, but can certainly get to us in the long term.
    Even the things that we said to ourselves like “I can’t do that cause I’m not smart enough” etc is really toxic and feeding ourselves with better thoughts can definitely translate it to how we act as well.
    Looking forward to your upcoming posts!

    1. Hi Wina. Many thanks for taking the time to read my post. We need to take better care of ourselves by watching our thoughts to make sure that we are not harming ourselves with negative self-talk. You are right when you say that the ANT will certainly harm us in the future. I wish you a wonderful day. Kind regards,

  5. Hi, I have heard of the law of attraction and even tried some techniques taught in the training.
    I must say though I have stopped the routine because the results didn’t happen fast enough.
    Now I’m in danger of falling into negative thoughts I know. I’m glad to have read this article and will immediately start looking at the things I will have in my life rather than thinking about the things I don’t have but want.
    I understand happiness is not a state of being but if we’re open the Moments of happiness can come to us much easier.

    1. Hi Stefan. many thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. Many people are similar to you and require fast results as proof that something works. However, it has taken your whole life of thinking in certain ways to get you to where you are now. It’s really not reasonable to be able to turn that situation around in a really short period of time, (although, it is possible.) Give it more time, and also create actions towards achieving the things that you desire in your future life, and with time if you stick at it, you will achieve the things you want. I wish you all the best on your journey,
      Kind regards, Andrew

  6. Hi Andrew,
    happiness is certainly a choice. I loved reading your article and agree that we often don’t believe in ourselves or our skills and abilities enough. Thanks for the interesting read

    1. Hi Marketa. Thanks for taking the time to read my post. We are amazing beings, capable of so much creativity and potential. And yet so many of us learned to limit ourselves and expect so little from life. Yes, you are right! It is a choice, and once we are aware that we can choose differently, we can begin to create the awesome lives that we desire. Make your life a fantastic one! Wishing you all the best on your journey to fulfilling your dreams,

  7. Andrew,

    Another great post. Thank you for being such an inspiration to me.

    Everything you say is spot on and once you are able to change your thought pattern then really, the skies the limit. I love it when I am able to take a step back and ask my self – where is my thought process and what can I change about this thinking pattern so I don’t feel this way.

    Even today, a co-worker said something to me which I immediately took offence too. In turn, I wanted to snap back. Then I realized he’s just frustrated and unfortunately because we work side by side, I got the blunt end of it. It took me asking myself why do I feel like that to take what he said and turn into why he said it.

    I feel a lot better now though!

    It’s taking the little things and manifesting them into something positive and grow it into the greater success of your future!

    Thanks again Andrew,

    1. Hey Kahlua. Thanks for taking the time to read and leave a comment on my post. It’s awesome to realize how much we have learned when we can stop and analyze a situation instead of reacting out of habits. You are to be congratulated for your emotional intelligence which gives you the ability to turn any situation into a ‘positive’ exchange instead of creating more anger, sorrow, fear, mistrust, etc. With much love and respect for you on your journey,

  8. This is so relevant at our time, we all need to take a step back and start looking inside ourselves and shaping our path accordingly. It is sad how sometimes you don’t realize this until something happens or simply grow older. Thank you for this post, it’s very helpful.

    1. Hi Sahar. Many thanks for taking the time to read my post. I now believe that we can only come to certain realizations when we are able to provide our own solutions. So, its never too late, or we are never too old. The time is always right to act upon that which we realize. Thanks for sharing 🙂
      Kind regards, Andrew

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