It’s unfortunate that most of us have been conditioned to expect a mediocre life experience. We have been programmed to accept that after leaving formal education, we will spend the next 40 or so years working for a living, raising a family, paying taxes, etc. And, if we are lucky, maybe we will have a few years of good health and some money saved in the bank to enjoy our retirement before passing away.
I say it’s unfortunate because it doesn’t have to be this way. With just a little more understanding and effort, it’s possible for us to have a much better life experience than the probable future that awaits us.
Don’t you think it would be great if we could end up living the lives we actually want to be living? Do you consider that it’s even possible to change your focus away from what is expected of you by family, friends, and society, and seek to fulfill your own dreams?
Why shouldn’t you live life on your terms…. doing the things you want, the things you find satisfying and fulfilling….. THE THINGS YOU ARE NOW ONLY DREAMING OF?
Based on my personal experience and what I have observed with many diverse people, I know it is not only possible, but it is our purpose to discover what we personally find fulfilling and then set out to achieve it!
So how do we do this? How do we get to live the awesome lives we desire for ourselves?
How Can I Make My Dreams For A Better Life Come True?
Living life on your terms is the only way to have a truly satisfying life. We each need to identify the stuff we enjoy doing and want to be doing and then figure out how we can do more of this stuff on a daily basis. Because the more we follow our passions, the more of the time we will be happy and satisfied…. and it is all these happy moments that add together to make a happy fulfilling life!
Great lives don’t just happen: They are the result of a process!
The current state of our lives is a ‘result’ we have arrived at because of all the experiences, events, and people we have encountered. All that has happened to us, and all that we have exposed ourselves to as we have traveled through the years has had an influence on who we have become.
And just as we could never have become who we are now without all of the previous processes, our lives can never just suddenly become the ‘great experience’ we dream….. unless we follow a process that will lead us towards our desired outcomes.
Our future circumstances will be our creations, things that we continue to shape, mold, and develop as we move forward in time. And the more we can be honest with ourselves, the more we will be able to identify what we want from our life experience……
Knowing what we want allows us to focus our considerable energies (thoughts, feelings, and actions) on the appropriate endeavors that will make it easier for us to achieve lives that match our goals and dreams.
So, where are you now……. and where do you want to be? And are you doing what is required to close the gap between the two? The more you can do now to close this gap, the sooner you will be living your dream lives.
“If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.” – Katharine Hepburn
This requires that we journey beyond where we currently are. We have to change some of the things that we have been doing that have got us to where we are now…… because the things that got us here are not going to get us to where we want to be…… they will just give us more of what we already have!
And what we need to change depends on where we want to go.
Manifesting different outcomes requires that we change what we are thinking and doing!
What we come into contact with has the power to change us. It is our experiences, our unique interactions with the world, which give shape to our thoughts and feelings…. And these determine our subsequent actions. Therefore, the environment that we immerse ourselves in, and the way we think and feel about it, are the predominant forces that are creating our futures.
Knowing this gives us the ‘tools’ we need to make our future better than our today. If we are not happy or feeling fulfilled with our lives or certain aspects of our lives, as they currently are, we can make changes to either our environment or to our inner world (thoughts and feelings), or to both. And in doing so, we will be sure to receive different outcomes for our future selves……
…… and because of this, it pays to ensure that the changes we make align with the goals and dreams we have for a better life!
Your future is in your hands. What are you going to do about it?
There are, and have always been many options available to us each and every day. However, becoming aware that we have options is often the first challenging task we must overcome when we are seeking to change ourselves.
Because when we are stuck in the same routine, waking up thinking the same things every morning, we are setting ourselves up for a day that is going to be almost a repeat of many other days we have recently lived. We tend to get what we expect, as this is what our thoughts are manifesting for us. This is The Law of Attraction at work in our lives.
If we expect to go to work 5 days a week, have a few drinks with co-workers on Friday night, take the kids to sports on Saturday, and watch the big game on TV on Sunday after putting the rubbish out, this is what we will get, week in and week out. We have been conditioned by society to expect very little change in our lives……
I’m not saying that getting an education, finding a job, falling in love, buying a house, and having kids is not a good life, because it really can be great! What I am trying to bring to your awareness is that variety and change can add much-desired happiness and fulfillment.
And variety is brought about by thinking different thoughts, which leads to doing different things, which gives us new feelings, emotions, and experiences. And these things add together to enhance our understanding of the possibilities of life.
“Life’s like a movie, write your own ending. Keep believing, keep pretending.”
– Jim Hensen
So what’s tomorrow going to hold for you? More of the same content you are already living and have been living daily for the last few years?
Or are you ready for some new challenges, to learn and experience different things that will open your mind and your heart to a bigger world of possibilities…..
LOL, Andrew, I love that Katharine Hepburn quote! Although I do believe that if we please ourselves, our environment benefits as well, because being happy is contagious, don’t you think? People are much more inclined to stick around happy people than to be with the miserable ones.
I used to not believe we can choose to be happy but I have come to the conclusion (like you) that we have our faith greatly in our own hands. And with the guidelines you describe in your article, lots of people can benefit from following them.
I say ‘lots of’ and not ‘everybody’. Some people like for some reason to moan and continue to be miserable and I was lucky enough to conclude years ago that I can tell people about my beliefs but don’t have to convince anybody. 🙂
Great article, thanks, and take care.
Hi Hannie 🙂
I totally agree with you… When we are happy and healthy, all life that we contact with, and beyond, benefits! And yeah, nobody really wants to hang out with negative people when there are much better choices available 🙂
There was a time, when I was younger and more naive, that I wanted to ‘save’ the world! However, like you, I soon realized that much of the people in the world didn’t want to be saved. So, what’s a guy to do when you have lots of information that you know can radically improve people’s lives in many ways, but the people you are reaching out to don’t want to listen to any of it?
Well, that’s why I started this blog, so I could share what I think are ways to help people…. and the benefit of doing it this way is that only people who are searching for information that I write about end up reading my posts. Blogging really is a win-win situation. The main benefit is that a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders because I came to realize that it’s not actually my job to save the world….. However, it is my purpose to have lots of fun, love, and laughter while living in the world 🙂
I wish you all the best,
Lot’s of love and respect,
Andrew
Thanks, Andrew for this post!
Too often we forget that the Law of Attraction is always at work in our lives and that it is our choices, day after day, that create the reality we live and the one we will experience over the years.
We always have the possibility to choose something different, better.
Obviously dreaming is not enough, you have to take specific actions to achieve the dream, but already be sure, as Walt Disney said, that “if you can dream it, you can do it” is a big step towards the desired life!
Hi Miriam.
Yes, choosing better feeling thoughts and actions that will return better results is a great way to make our lives better day by day.
I’m not sure why many people think they can just continue to do the same things and think the same thoughts and their lives will magically improve one day? The content and the quality of our lives is a choice we are making at all times by the things we do, or don’t do. And the sooner we acknoledge this and then do what it takes to get what we want, the sooner we will be living the lives of our dreams.
I wish you a happy and successful life,
Andrew