We all have different lives. However, the same truths apply to all of us. We may believe that the nicest people have the nicest lives, some people are always lucky and the grumpiest people have unhappy lives. We may think that ‘grumpy people’ are grumpy because of all the misfortune they have had in their lives, because of all the stuff going on outside of them that has a direct impact on the quality of their lives. Should we feel sorry for them?
The law of attraction says that their life, and everyone else’s life, is a direct result of the mental energy that they have accumulated in the past. This energy is the direct result of the seeds they have been cultivating through the thoughts they have had in the past up until this point in time.
How can their lives be improved? Definitely not by continuing to think and do the same things that they have done in the past! This is how their lives became so out of balance in the first place. To make changes in our circumstances, whether it be relationships, financial, work, etc. we actually need to make changes in ourselves, and this is achieved when we begin consciously cultivating positive thoughts more consistently!
The grumpy person has a grumpy life experience because their mind chatter revolves around thoughts that have created this reality. Like attracts like, and our thoughts crystallize into habits, which then solidify into circumstances. A change in thinking is required if we wish to change our circumstances. Learn how to use the law of attraction to change your life here.
All positive change must begin with self-appreciation: First, accept yourself and then learn to love yourself
If we are having a negative relationship with ourselves we are creating the exact same relationship with life. Changing this to having a positive loving relationship with our-self will attract love, health, abundance, and joy into our lives.
When we realize this we can become more discerning about the choices we are making on a moment to moment basis. Before acting, ask yourself, “Is what I am doing, or about to do, creating more love in my life, or taking me further away from love?” But why stop there. What about everyone else?
We should always treat others as if they were our self- because, in reality, they are one in spirit with us. We are all connected by energy, and by honoring all of creation we are honoring ourselves. Negative thoughts towards another person will only backfire and come back to harm ourselves. For an explanation about this, see my post about karma here.
What if someone else harms us? If someone else is behaving negatively towards us they are showing us how their mind is working, and we should not take it personally. They are just showing us that there is something wrong with them, not us. They are being negligent in regard to their own wellbeing and are therefore incapable of showing compassion and consideration towards others. Normal happy healthy people do not go around with the intention of harming others, whether it be people, animals, nature or anything created.
How to win the game of life: The power of time
It takes time to overcome the unconscious limiting habits that we have accumulated and for us to learn new ways that support how we wish to be living our lives. But that is OK as we have the whole of this lifetime and many others to learn our lessons.
However, time is nothing but a product of our collective consciousness and doesn’t actually exist. But without the illusion of time, we would not be able to play here in this physical reality.
What we imagine as time is a linear reality that allows us to have the deception of being ‘born not knowing who we are,’ and then we can play the game of life to ‘evolve into who we wish to become.’ So enjoy the time you have to play, for we never know when our time is up!
Imagine if we could see all time and space, here and now. We would see all of our lifetimes together, everything we had learned and will learn, all together. We would not need to do anything. Everything would be happening instantly right now. There would be no point in having a life. Game over! Viewed this way, time is our friend as it allows us to participate and act out many lifetimes of experiences.
What do I do with the time I have available to me? Change your thoughts to create a better life for yourself!
We are here, and the time is now. This is the best time to assess how much we value ourselves and to think about how much time we are willing to invest in our self-development. Start with your most rigidly held beliefs. These are the ones that will be holding you back the most from achieving the things you want.
Beliefs like ‘I never win’, ‘I’m not good enough’ and ‘I could never do what they did’ severely limit what we are willing to try and keep us talking to ourselves in demeaning ways. Our focus is kept on what is not working in our lives, and with these beliefs, we will also deny or ‘talk down’ the good experiences or successes that we have had.
Our personal beliefs are not universally true. They are ideas we have that change as we grow in experience. Knowing this and knowing where our beliefs come from, we can work on changing them by either watching and changing our self-talk or changing the ‘experiences’ we are having in our lives to bring about different results.
If we have sat in a noisy, poorly lit, smoky bar every night drinking alcohol for the last year, our mind and body would really benefit from going for a walk in the sun along a beach instead. At first, this new experience may be a shock to our senses and way outside of our comfort zone. This may leave us feeling stressed, agitated and wanting to go back to something that we are familiar with to alleviate the discomfort. Don’t do it!
If we are able to accept these feelings as a natural part of any learning and remember that we probably felt the same way the first time we learned to ride a bike, or went for a swim in the ocean, we will accept the normality of the stress that learning new things brings and appreciate the heightened sense of self-worth gained by having new adventures.
We should never let the fears we currently hold on to, because of what we ‘already know,’ stand in the way of accomplishing what we are ‘yet to know.’ Instead, we could do our best to bring thoughts of ‘I can do this’ and actions of ‘trying to do it’ into harmony which will help to reduce the amount of internal conflict experienced when committing to creating a better life experience for ourselves. And any success we achieve will be very satisfying.
A final word of encouragement: Plan to have lots of fun!
Happiness and contentment come from within us and once we understand this we know that no one and no external circumstances has the power to take them away from us. However, until we learn this we are destined to continue to struggle as we expose ourselves to various lessons again and again that ‘push our buttons’ until we have learned all there is to learn about being a human being.
I suggest that you refuse to go to the grave without striving to achieve the things you want in this life. Instead, aim to go with the knowledge that you participated to the full extent of your abilities and you lived a great life!
I wish you well on your journey and would love to have your feedback or comments in the section below.
As always, written with love and respect for all beings.