How can I control my thoughts: Is this a foundation for a better life?

How can I control my thoughts: Is this a foundation for a better life?

So, we exist. We are here, currently reading this blog. How did we get here? Out of all the possible choices available to us at this very moment, we chose to be here.

You had a thought, this resulted in feelings and other associated thoughts, and then you engaged in an action that led you to read this article. This is the cycle of our lives. Thoughts, feelings, and actions, which give results, or outcomes, and the cycle repeats indefinitely. We are part of this process whether we are aware of it or not, whether we like it or not.

So, why not use it to our advantage? It is easier than you think to change your thoughts and change your life.

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Can I make my life better? Want some tips for a better life?

How to live a better life is something many of us think about. However, few follow up with the necessary study and even fewer move on to implement the actions required to help themselves live a better life. Why is that?

It’s easy and less challenging to remain the same, doing the same things, with the same people over and over again. This leads to a predictable and stagnant life. If you don’t progress with the addition of new skills or information/knowledge you will not develop, grow, progress, or advance forward in any meaningful way.

Since life is a journey and we have learned everything we currently know up to this point in our lives, we have proven to ourselves, beyond any doubt, that we are capable of learning vast amounts of information and skills. There was a time when we couldn’t even walk, couldn’t dress ourselves or even talk. Now we can do these things and so much more.

Want some tips for a better life? There is only two important things that you must always remember- Never stop learning, and then, implement what you learn. If you are learning the right things, you will be setting up the foundation for a better life.

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Change your thoughts and change your life: Become mindful!

There is no point wanting a better life, there is no point hoping for a better life, and there is no point looking for a better life. If you don’t change yourself, your life will never change. You will be doomed to receiving more of the same content that you have in your current life! Is this what you want? Wanting and hoping demand no action from yourself, so nothing will change. Looking outside of yourself may improve your circumstances for a while. However, since you, yourself has not changed, you will soon attract to same circumstances back into your life that you had before.

You have to do something different to get a different life for yourself. This means taking action! Where to start? By being mindful of your thoughts. Your current thought patterns originate from your beliefs. If you are not happy with some aspects of your life, search out the predominant thought patterns you are having, and if they are not supportive of your future goals, begin to change them. Being mindful of current patterns is important because it is these thought patterns that the content of our lives is created.

Our thoughts tell us what is good or bad, to go left or right, to buy this product or that one, and who our friends should be. If we had different thoughts, we would choose different products, friends, direction, job, etc. So you can see how important our thoughts are. Why is it then that the average person is only consciously aware of five percent of their thoughts? The other ninety-five percent have the predominant influence in creating our lives. If you are not happy with your life, if life is hard, begin the task of reprogramming your subconscious mind with thought patterns that will support the direction you want your life to take.

Change your thoughts and change your life

Can I control my thoughts? Yes, you most definitely can!

At the moment, the programming in your subconscious mind is controlling the majority of your life. The foundation for a better life begins when you take control of your mind. Become mindful of more of your thoughts, more of the time, and overprint the thoughts that do not support you with thoughts that will help you in living the life you desire in the future. The results are not immediate, but this process is sure to generate the results you desire……. but only if you put in the effort to become aware of what is happening inside your mind!

The more relaxed you are with this process, the better your results will be. There is no need to stress out every time you catch yourself thinking un-supportive thoughts. Become relaxed with the process and realize that life is a journey, a journey where you are learning to be the creator of your own reality. Every time you catch yourself with a negative thought be happy that you now have the opportunity to override it with ten new thoughts that will support you! In time your subconscious will be over-run with awesome thoughts and your basic programming will be changed to create the life you desire.

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There is only one person responsible for your life: It’s you!

It’s easy to blame circumstances on other people for the mess that our life may be in. However, it is our thoughts that have led us to the actions we have taken in the past, that have created the life we are currently living. Understanding this gives us the power to take control of our life as it currently is. Then once we assume responsibility for our self, we can empower our self to change the content and direction of our life.

Do you want more of the same, or are you desiring to reclaim your power as the creator of the content of your own life? Willingness is only the first step. Then action is required! Action is preceded by thoughts that support you. Start now by knowing that you are worthy of having all the good things in life that you desire. Start now by loving and respecting the person that you currently are- regardless of any perceived faults that you believe you have.

Self-respect is a necessary first step for generating self-supporting thoughts that will create your foundation for a better life!

With much love and respect,

Andrew

 

 

 

 

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  1. Andrew,

    Thank you for the article. I definitely had to learn to re-direct my thoughts as I suffer depression. There is one person responsible for and it’s me (and God).

    Thanks for the info.

  2. Hi Andrew,

    Thanks for the uplifting words. It’s nice to be reminded that I am in control of my mind and can shape my reality. I am wondering your thoughts about how one can become better at respecting themselves more? What kinds of things can someone do to become more mindful?

    Thanks again,

    Matthew

    1. Hi Matthew. Thanks for the kind comments. The easiest and best solution to become more mindful is to stop any form of personal self-criticism or self-judgment. Our mind then becomes free to just observe what is happening without judgment. When we are in this neutral space we can see more clearly the truth of what is unfolding around us and are then able to shape our thoughts constructively to create the outcomes that we desire. I hope this helps. If not, I am happy to continue the conversation.
      Kind regards
      Andrew

  3. This is a great post! I totally agree that our happiness is in our own hands (and minds). Mindfulness has recently been a big part of my life as I believe that being more present in your day to day rather than consumed with worry or anxiety helps in the journey towards creating the life you want! Great article!

    1. Many thanks. Yes, worry and anxiety only serve to undermine our well-being. They serve no useful purpose. Being present is what is truly important.
      Kind regards
      Andrew

  4. Great post and really inspiring!

    I am talking to my mom about this stuff as she is just moving from one home to another and we have spent the summer decluttering and throwing away stuff that my dad collected over the years (he passed 9 years ago), as well as all the stuff my mom had.

    I know it has been stressful for my mom, and she is so stuck in a rut of negative thinking, poverty thinking and family gossip. It kills me visiting and I have fight the urge to join in, especially when other family is visiting because they all sit around saying the most horrible things about others.

    I know that I have to find a way to move forward away from my family, while still being able to participate in gatherings. Do you have any advice?

  5. Hi Irma, Thanks for sharing.

    Family is a tough one because they think they know you based on how you have been throughout your life. So when you implement changes in your own life, most of the time they are unable, or unwilling, to interact with the revised ‘you.’ They like to pretend that things can carry on as they have done in the past! In this way they don’t have to change anything about themselves.

    If you stay true to yourself, you won’t participate in these negative people bashing discussions anymore. If you move away or refuse to comment on these discussions, over time they will recognize the change in you. Hopefully, this may lead them to question the value of what they are doing, and inspire them to also change their negative habits and become ‘better people.’ Gentle reminders of the good qualities in the people they are bashing will also help them to see the person in a more favorable light.

    It is very admirable to want to help others become ‘better people.’ And while we can see how their life will benefit from positive changes, it is not something that we have the right to force upon another person. We are all individual souls on individual journeys/learning experiences, and if we don’t understand the lesson this time, we will be presented with the same lessons again and again until we ‘graduate’ this school of life. Let them deal with their lessons in their way, and this will allow you to focus on the most important thing….. Yourself!

    The very best thing you can do to help those you care about is to always be the best version of yourself that you can be. Leading by example is a great way to inspire others to change, by showing them how much lighter life can be when you are not drowning in negativity.

    I hope this has helped. Please feel free to continue this discussion.
    Wishing you health, wealth, wisdom and a very happy life.
    Andrew

  6. There’s a mad monkey living in my head! It would be magical if I can control my thoughts. I have tried meditation but I didn’t stick to it. Will give it another go. I have to say, life does seems to be better when I had my mind somewhat in control! Thanks for sharing this!

    1. Hi, Wei. Yes, the mind can be like a mad monkey. haha, been there, done that! But believe me when I say that with practice it becomes a lot easier. Many people when starting to meditate make the mistake of trying to hard. They think there is something that they need to achieve to be successful. However, the best way to approach meditation is just to relax. Focus on your breathing without trying to change it, and then just become an observer who is watching the thoughts going past in your mind. If you become attached to any thought, just let it go and practice being the one observing the thoughts again. In time the mad monkey will release his grip on you.
      Best of luck,
      Andrew

  7. Thanks Andrew,

    As someone who used to work in high stress jobs that often took their toll on my family, I really connected with your content. I have been working through ways to change my life for a few years after getting fired from one of those jobs. It is not easy to change mindset around stature, income and physical property.

    I love the message about taking responsibility for yourself, I heard a saying the other day “If you continue to let old wounds fester you end up bleeding on those that don’t deserve it.

    Thanks for a great blog and I look forward to reading more.

    1. Hi Paul, and thanks for sharing. I believe live presents to us the lessons that we most need to learn. I know it may sound harsh to some people, but often a ‘misfortune’ like being fired from a ‘high-stress job’ is the best thing for you. It’s often only with hindsight that we can see what a blessing this ‘misfortune’ is. I trust it has allowed you to improve your relationships, heal your body from stress-related die-ease, and look for alternative sources of income that are more favorable to your general health and wellbeing.
      I wish you all the best.
      Kind regards
      Andrew

  8. I really like the point you make about learning; we have been learning every single day since day one and we’ve got to where we are now- think about how much further we could get if we sped up that learning process! Self-discipline and control of your thoughts is another awesome tip. I think that physical self – discipline (healthy eating and sleeping for example) can work hand in hand with mental control and discipline! Do you agree?

    1. Hi Benji. Yes, I agree with you. We are a magnificent multidimensional being, composed of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects. All aspects are intimately connected and we cannot change one without affecting the others. For example, if we suddenly decide to eat better, (mental), and then begin eating better quality foods our bodies will feel better, (physical). This leads to an upswing in how we are feeling, (emotional) and the overall result is an increase in energy and vitality, (improved spiritual connection). Many opportunities present themselves to us each day for us to improve our own wellbeing. Whether we take advantage of these opportunities is up to us!
      Kind regards
      Andrew

  9. Hi Andrew,
    Very nice post. I learned a long long time ago to not let things bother me. I was depressed in high school and one day i decided to take my life back and not live that way. Ever since then I have not let anything get to me in that way. I take everything in and just get past it. I have found that most people cannot do that. most people seem to dwell on things and not be able to take control. I hope your website can provide some insight for others.

    1. Hi Chastity. You are one of the few who thinks like this. It’s unfortunate that our schooling systems focus on teaching us facts and figures instead of ‘life skills.’ I too hope that my words will encourage others to take control of their minds so they are able to live more fulfilling and rewarding lives.
      Thanks for the comments,
      Kind regards
      Andrew

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