If you have been reading my blogs, you will know that I talk about how science has shown that the majority of us are living on autopilot for up to ninety-five percent of each day. This means that for only five percent of each day we are consciously choosing what to think and how to act and react!
I find this incredible and at the same time believable. Incredible because we are paying so little attention to OUR LIVES, and believable because every day I hear people complaining about how bad their lives are: I wish this didn’t happen, I wish this would happen, why did they do that to me?….. you get the picture.
Wise and successful people throughout history have been telling us that we are the powerful creators of our own lives. However, the message seems to have been omitted from mainstream education systems, and instead, we are conditioned to be mediocre and expect to live mediocre lives.
I grew up in the system, got a university degree in the system, and then realized that in the real world, it didn’t mean a whole lot! What it did was set me up to get a job, buy a house, raise a family, have a couple of weeks holiday each year, and after about forty years, retire on a pension and my savings (if any) that I had left after paying all the taxes, living fees, registrations, licenses, etc.
There is not a lot of time in there to be creative and pursue dreams, but that’s not the problem. The problem is that we are programmed to believe that working hard is the appropriate way to achieve our dreams, and according to the latest scientific research, and what the wise people from the past have been telling us, this simply is not true!
So many of us have ended up living the lives we do, lives of conformity, not because we are happy and satisfied, but because we don’t actually know how to create something better! Essentially, we are living our lives by default, not by choice!
What is living by default?
Living by default is living unconsciously….. without conscious awareness of what we are thinking and doing.
And what’s wrong with this?
It means that we have no ‘free will’ and instead are routinely JUST going through the motions of life while not being actively involved in what we are doing. While in this autopilot mode, we take what comes to us and have no power to actively create the content, and therefore, the circumstances and quality of our lives.
The sad thing is that, while we are in autopilot mode, we are still creating, but just recreating similar content over and over again without being aware of doing so.
We are gifted with incredibly complex and powerful brains. Unfortunately, most of us are not taught how to use them to set us up for living exceptional lives. However, we all have it within us to learn how we can use our brains to achieve extraordinary lives.
First, we need to understand how we can change our subconscious mind programs so that we stop living by default and become a more conscious participant in the creation of our future.
The most important skill we can develop is to ‘become present.’
Our thoughts create our reality. They determine what we do and don’t do, how we act and react, what we like and don’t like, etc. Therefore our thoughts are responsible for the way we end up feeling, and it is by the way we feel that we judge the quality of our lives.
It stands to reason then, that the greatest super-power we have is ‘THE ABILITY TO CHOOSE OUR THOUGHTS.’
Being present, mindful, conscious, or aware, means paying attention to what is happening to us (internal environment) and around us (external environment.) Being present is something that we all already do and is a skill that we can also develop and strengthen with practice.
How many of us become instantly alert when our child is in danger? This is awareness, and according to research, on average, we all do it for about five percent of each day. The rest of the time, when we are watching TV while flicking through our smartphone, and talking to our partner, we are not fully present or attentive to the details of what is going on.
Our brains are the perfect tool for recreating the past.
Our magnificent brains are a record of the past. Everything we have done, seen, heard, loved, regretted, and felt, are recorded in the vast library of records that is our mind.
As we are waking up in the morning, before coming conscious, memories play through our minds. We think about certain people, places, times, events, feelings, etc. and this connects us to more thoughts and feelings, and then we feel the associated emotions. These current emotions are the end product of thing’s that happened in the past that we are thinking about now…..WE ARE RELIVING THESE OLD EMOTIONS, NOW, AT THE BEGINNING OF A NEW DAY! (I hope it’s not anger, fear, resentment, jealousy….etc.)
So, every morning when we wake up to begin a fresh day, OUR STATE OF BEING IS ALREADY DETERMINED BY THE ‘FAMILIAR PAST’ (the mind programs we continually return to again and again….. not consciously, but by default!)
The BIG PROBLEM with this is that thinking about the familiar past brings it into the present, gives it new energy, and by default, it is more than likely going to lead us into loving a predictable future!
Think about it! Is this what you want for your future?
From here, for many of us, the story gets worse!
All the above happens as we are waking up. Then when we are semi-aware of where we are and what we need to do, we slip into our familiar morning routine. This may include checking our phone for messages, seeing what happened on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram during the night, check emails, and catching up on the latest news. This means that before we even get out of bed, our entire state of being is already connected to our past, which consists of what we already know and are familiar with.
And, it doesn’t stop there. We still have a bathroom, dressing, breakfast, getting to work, and a ‘having our buttons pushed’ in a similar way by the same people routine. All these routines will be following a very predictable pattern or habits that we have built up over the years.
Since our conscious mind doesn’t like repetitive habits (because it already knows the outcome), it stays switched off and allows our unconscious mind to complete these ‘familiar’ tasks. As a result, we drift through our day in autopilot mode because our bodies can handle most tasks without the need for our conscious mind to be involved.
However, this is not a good situation because our bodies have effectively been programmed to create a predictable future for us based on what we have done in the past! Our bodies cannot think for themselves so are relying on previous memories. Can it get any worse? Yes, it can because every time a task is repeated, the neural connections in our brains become stronger.
In effect, we lose all free will to programs that our bodies and minds are returning to because we are in auto-pilot mode. This is why many of us do the same things day in and day out, and we keep getting the same results.
What is the most important message here?
If we are waking up in the morning and not consciously thinking about how we want our lives to be in the future, (today, tomorrow, or next year) then we will continue to be locked into repeating old memories and habits from the past- the same ones that got us to where we are now. And these memories and habits CANNOT take us beyond where we are now!
Unfortunately, many people tend to return to painful memories when they wake up, and the stronger the emotions we have attached to certain issues in our lives, the more we will pay attention to them. And since this is where our energy becomes focused, it just further strengthens these painful neurological networks in our brains.
If what we are constantly thinking about while in autopilot mode creates stress in us, and we are jumping from one issue to the next, our brains naturally become incoherent, which means we cannot function optimally. Thinking about the stressful drive to work, the report that needs to be finished, where is the money going to come from to pay for the kids schooling, etc. causes our bodies to return to their addictive pre-programmed emotional responses which are likely to be stress-related.
The way out of this stressful cycle is to become more mindful or ‘present.’
To become present, we need to actively manage our minds, instead of letting our minds manage us!
We need to train our brains away from their predictable go-to negative responses, and we can only achieve this when we realize that we are not our minds… our minds are just a collection of programmed information that we have acquired over our lifetime that we can change at will!
Positive and beneficial changes can only occur when we are ‘consciously’ aware of our thoughts and feelings/emotions so that we can make objective decisions in the present moment, rather than reacting based on past programming. This allows for many more possibilities of thoughts which we can use to recondition our bodies differently……
We can effectively regain control of our future by telling our bodies that it is no longer in control of our thoughts, feelings, emotions, and responses. Our minds, with conscious awareness and the power of our will, can now begin creating new programs to direct us to achieve our goals and the lives we have been dreaming of.
How will being present change my life?
When we notice that we are unconsciously reacting bases on past programs we need to relax our bodies and change what we are focusing on. This breaks the energetic bonds we have to the unwanted memories.
Initially, we may feel chaotic and unsettled because this is new behavior for us. Our body will try to return to familiar known habits, thoughts, and actions, that it knows and is comfortable with. However, with time, we will retrain our body to accept that our conscious mind is now in control.
Consciously taking control of our mind is a process that takes time and effort, however, the rewards are huge. We become liberated from the chains of the past and will no longer live according to conditioned responses, thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions. We can CHOOSE to be happy in the present moment.
So now, an important choice for us is: Will we continue to be controlled by our past or make a decision to be defined by a vision of our future.
How do I move ahead and make a better future for myself?
We need to decide what we want to achieve with a level of intensity that has a strong enough amplitude of energy that it will infect our brains. It needs to have such an impact that it becomes wired into our neural network and becomes a memory. The stronger the emotion we attach to our desires and goals, the more we focus on them, the more energy that is created. And now, we can begin to ‘remember’ and therefore create our future (the way we want it to be.)
So, our clear intention (mind-thoughts), followed by strong emotions related to HOW WE WILL FEEL once our goals are achieved (heart and body-feelings) creates new networks in our brains (memories) which we can start remembering. THIS PROCESS WILL CHANGE OUR ENERGY, OUR VIBRATION, AND IT WILL CHANGE THE DIRECTION OF OUR LIVES TOWARDS OUR NEWLY IMPLANTED MEMORIES.
It’s a process, a journey, and nothing will change after one or two days, however, the process of change is much quicker for those who can ‘fall in love with their future.’ They tend to notice that the past just falls away……
- Stop doing the same thing’s and seeing the same people that elicit negative automatic responses from us
- Remain in the present moment and consciously choose which thoughts ‘wire and fire our brains’ (create our future)
- Consider if what we are doing is creating habits that are priming our brains for the future we want
- Keep stimulating our brains with new and exciting information about what’s possible for us to achieve, and firmly hold on to this vision with strong emotions to teach our bodies what the future is going to feel like.
- Read, learn, and study about successful people to make strong connections in our brain which becomes the raw material that allows us to believe the bigger dream….. if they have done it, we can do it too!
Until now, our brains have typically been a record of the past, but now we can make it a map to our future. If we keep ‘wiring and firing’ our neurons with our vision of the future, pretty soon we will begin feeling like we have achieved it, and then by the universal Law of Attraction, it will manifest as our reality. There is no magic here, it’s just the natural result of a process that begins with installing the correct information into our brains to get what we want.
Remember, it’s a vibrational universe and it is the energy of our feelings and emotions that attract to us our life circumstances. So by becoming aware of how we are feeling at all times, we are able to tune ourselves with our vibrations to create the future we desire!
Shared with love and respect for all souls who choose to play the game of life!