When we play video games or board games, we never want to get to the end too quickly, as completing the game is not why we play. We play to experience each of the steps along the way. It is the steps that give us the highs and lows and keep us immersed in the experience. We are always excited to see what will happen next. Playing would never be as much fun if the game was too easy or finished too quickly.
It is the flow of the game that entices us to keep playing by stimulating emotional responses from us. It is our emotions that keep us fixated as we compete with ourselves and others to try to better our situation. We play intending to overcome the obstacles and challenges in our path to come out victorious, and this is our purpose for playing. This is also the purpose of participating in the game of life– to learn from the circumstances presented to us, to make the most of ALL situations, (the good and the bad,) and come out ‘FEELING GOOD’ knowing that we played our ‘game’ to the best of our abilities.
It is the journey, the day by day dramas, victories, surprises, anticipation, hopes, and dreams that elicit emotions from us that keeps us here, immersed in the experience, engrossed in the journey. We did not come here to reach the end of the game in a matter of moments, but instead, to be absorbed by the lessons and challenges we meet each step along the way and revel in the shared experience with other like-minded adventurous souls.
If life is a game, I can choose to have all the best things all the time.
Imagine if you were eighteen years old again, and now imagine meeting a wise person, or Being, that offered you the “Secrets to Life.” This all-knowing Being is willing to make it so that you can avoid all suffering, all doubt, all fear, all pain, and just live the rest of your life in absolute bliss, peace, and abundance with everything that you desire all the time. Sounds great, right?
Ok, so day one of your remarkable life begins. You eat your favorite foods, watch your favorite movie, visit your favorite places, drive your favorite car, and you feel great. Day two, three, and four are a repeat of day one because you only want to be doing the perfect things all the time…. You don’t need to do anything else because the best of EVERYTHING you desire is at your fingertips at all times….. Only the best things!
Day five comes along, and we are repeating the previous days, but something is different! We are not as ecstatic as we were in the earlier days. Why, what’s changed? All the exterior circumstances are the same; we still have the best of everything at all times, so why are we not as happy as we were before? As time goes one, we become less comfortable and are bored by being exposed to the same ‘great stuff’ over and over again and we will reach a point when we come to resent it having all this great stuff all the time!
Why will I become bored with life when I always get everything I want?
There is virtually no opportunity for personal growth and development if everything is ‘perfect’ all the time. By nature, we need ‘contrast’ or different experiences to give us opportunities to learn and grow. If this were not the case, we would be born fully formed and knowing everything that we like, and have access to it all at all times.
However, the reality is such that we are not born fully developed or with any ideas of right and wrong, good or bad, and like and dislike!
We are born incomplete, BUT with the ability to develop our bodies and minds in many ways. We arrive into this world as a bundle of ‘potential,’ and it is the journey that we are on (how we play our game) that ultimately determines our level of satisfaction or dissatisfaction with our life.
It is the contrast in the environment and in how those around us feel about the situations that provide us with guidance on ‘how we should feel’ about stuff that happens to us throughout our life. It is only because we have contrast or diversity, that we are afforded the opportunities to have a range of thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and because of how we think and feel we will begin to separate things into ‘good and bad,’ or ‘wanted and unwanted,’ ‘liked and disliked.’
Good stuff makes us happy, and bad stuff does not. We don’t need to be a rocket scientist to understand that the more good things we encounter and seek out on our journey, the happier our over-all life experience will be.
Do I really need to have some of the unwanted experiences mixed in with the good stuff?
Our universe works because of duality. We have up and down, in and out, day and night, black and white, left and right, and good and bad. All things exist with their opposite to maintain balance.
Up cannot exist without down, just as left cannot exist without right. We can’t know one without the other. The good stuff is only visible to us because we can see/imagine/feel the other stuff. This duality is necessary for our continued growth, expansion, and evolution as an individual and as a species. Everything that we are exposed to has the potential to make us wiser and more experience-rich, depending on how we respond to it.
It is only by being exposed to and experiencing a range of diverse circumstances/events/emotions/feelings that we can determine that they are different. We can, therefore, rank them and hopefully avoid more or the stuff that we don’t like. However, bad stuff is actually not bad at all, unless we react to it in a negative way.
The ‘bad stuff’ does not need to ruin our day!
Just because we see stuff happening around us, in different places, cultures, religions, political movements, etc. it does not mean that we need to become emotionally involved in it. Stuff can only upset us, annoy us, make us angry, etc. if we invest our thoughts and emotions into it in a negative way.
I do not mean that we should avoid all things that are not to our liking so that we will only be exposed to the stuff that we like, but suggest that we can view this ‘negative stuff’ in a neutral or positive way instead of having an adverse reaction which will manifest as dis-ease in our bodies.
By avoiding adverse reactions, we will maintain our overall sense of wellbeing and not be disturbed by things that are, in effect, happening outside of our control and outside of our bodies. Why would we want to feel stress, anger, anxiety, jealousy depression, etc. within our body and mind about stuff that is happening external to ourselves that we have no control over????? Think about it!
Humans, to our detriment, are the only life form in all of nature that worry endlessly about the past or the future. Other animals, plants, insects, etc. just get on with living even after terrible disasters befall them. They never sit around, feeling sorry for themselves, or complaining about things to their neighbors; they just make the best out of the time they have.
So, how do we make ‘good’ out of a ‘bad’ situation?
If we keep doing the same things that we have always done, reacting to the same situations/events in the same way as we have always done, then we can only ever expect to get the same results we have always obtained! We will just be stuck on the same level of the game, repeating the same lessons over and over again. This means that if a particular situation/person/event has always upset you in the past, and you are exposed to it again, you are most likely to repeat the same habitual negative response, and feel the same negative emotions.
As with any game, there are always multiple ways to play. We could take one step forward and one step back, or two forward and one to the left and then one back, or we could just remain where we currently are. A wise choice is to keep moving forward with the expectation of achieving our dreams.
Moving forward means changing……
and change can only happen when we learn something new. We need to become aware of our habits and put effort into breaking them so that we can evolve beyond the limited life we are currently living. Our brain is a record of the past, so if we don’t learn anything new, we will just live out our lives repeating the same experience over and over again.
Awareness allows us to realize that we have the option to change the way we respond. So instead of unconsciously reacting in ways that we always have, we can choose different conscious thoughts and actions (practice mindfulness) that will be of benefit to our personal growth and development and will result in increased overall happiness and satisfaction with our life!
We can make the most out of ALL situations and events just by putting our focus where it will produce the desired good feelings and emotions for us.
How is life like a game?
In a game, we learn the rules, identify our objective and proceed through the game, step by step, in the hope of eventually arriving at the end feeling satisfied that we have played a good game. In life, we can do the same!
None of us come here to purposefully choose a crappy life experience, but many people seem to have nothing but bad luck/ill fortune befall them. However, if these people learned the rules of life, they would easily be able to improve their experience.
Once we have identified that a range of stuff exists to experience, we can make decisions as to what sort of life we want to live. We can then seek out the information and experiences that will give us more of the stuff that will make us feel good.
If we play for ‘the love of the game’ and consciously expect to enjoy all the steps along the way, we will have a great life experience.
If, however, we choose to believe that life is hard and full of obstacles, then this is what we will attract (through The Law of Attraction) into our experience.
We benefit most when we focus on our own experience and check-in with ourselves regularly, many times every day, inquiring, ‘HOW AM I FEELING NOW?’ Our answer to this question will give us an indication of what we have just been thinking about.
If we are not happy, for whatever reason, we can change our thoughts to thoughts that will immediately elevate our level of happiness. If we do this regularly, we will break down the negative, self-defeating thought habits that currently inhabit our minds. We can then begin to build up habits that will help us achieve a higher level of overall satisfaction with our life. WE WILL BECOME A HAPPIER PERSON AND WE WILL FEEL LIKE WE ARE ON THE WAY TO WINNING OUR GAME OF LIFE.
It is important to remember that CONTRAST AND DIVERSITY need to exist, but it does not mean that we need to allow ALL experiences to become part of OUR LIFE. Other players may need the stuff, that we see as undesirable, to learn what they need to learn. We should be happy for them as they are receiving what they need to help them to evolve to the next level of the game. It’s none of our business what other people are doing and we should be concerned with putting our focus where it belongs…… ON BECOMING THE BEST PLAYER THAT we CAN BE SO THAT WE WILL ACHIEVE THE LIFE THAT WE DESIRE FOR OURSELVES.
As with any game, it would be boring if there was nothing to challenge us, surprise us, and keep us guessing what is coming next!
Enjoying the GAME OF LIFE is a moment by moment choice dependent on what we are thinking about at any given moment…..
So, What are YOU CHOOSING to think about NOW, and NOW, and NOW……… Please, let me know in the comments section below.
Shared with love and respect for all souls who choose to play the game of life. May your experiences be as you wish them to be!