An advantage of being liked by other people is that they may be more willing to go out of their way to help you. But other than this, is it really important whether other people like you or not? Most of the time it’s not…. and I’ll happily explain why.
Why should you care if the guy you walked past on the street gave you an indifferent stare or the checkout person at the supermarket didn’t smile at you? What about your ‘friends’ at work and the sports club? Maybe they didn’t make an effort to have a meaningful conversation with you yesterday, so now you think that they don’t like you. It may be true, but not necessarily so.
The reality is that other people are so wrapped up in their own dramas that they probably never even gave you a second thought. Yes, the people you are worried about, whether they like you or not, are more often too busy wondering if they turned the oven off, fed the cat, passed the exam….. or if we, and 100 other people they know, like them or not! Think about it…. why would they be any different from you in that respect?
This article is for you if you are struggling with social anxiety or just want to know how to deal with people who don’t like you. So, for some expert tips on how to deal with others who don’t like you, please read on….
Should You Be Worried If Other People Don’t Like You?
If you spend your time trying to please everyone else, you will go crazy! Not only is it impossible, but it’s also not your job to ensure other people are having a great life. Their life is their responsibility, just as your life is your responsibility. Your time and energy are best spent on becoming the best version of yourself that you can be, and this will in turn positively affect all others around you. The happier and healthier you become, the more you have to offer to make the world a better place!
Why Do You Think Other People Don’t Like You?
Other people judge us on the impressions we let them see. They see us here and now, and that will include whatever dramas and emotional baggage we are currently carrying. And of course, this will vary from day to day, and as the weeks and months pass by and we are constantly having to deal with different and new stuff.
And it’s the same when we see other people. Maybe we meet someone for the first time and their favorite aunt has just passed away, but they don’t tell us that. They may come across as gloomy, depressed, and uninteresting…. Whereas, if we met them on a different day, under different circumstances (like when they have just won the lottery) we would form a different opinion of them. And it’s the same for us……
Maybe the person we want to like us has just caught us when we are having a bad day! It’s nothing to be concerned about…. because nothing is forever, and we can always set up further opportunities to make a better second impression if we feel that developing this relationship is important.
Other People Have Their Own Dramas and Are Too Self-Absorbed To Think About Us.
Do you like everyone you meet? If you’re being honest, you’d have to answer no…. It’s an impossibility because some people are just going to rub you the wrong way. And the same applies to us, in that we will, for one of many reasons, get under some other people’s skin.
Maybe they just have nothing in common with you and therefore consider there’s no point in getting to know you. And that’s perfectly OK! Even Jesus Christ and the Buddha were not liked by everyone…… and they would rank among the kindest and most compassionate people to have ever lived! This goes to show it doesn’t matter who we are, how good we are, or what we know and can do, not everyone will like us!
Another thing to consider is that there’s really no advantage in being liked by people we have nothing in common with. I mean, why would you want to hang out with them anyway? So don’t be concerned with whether they like you or not….. there’s no need to take it personally if they don’t!
Maybe they don’t even like themselves very much. And if this is the case, them not liking you is ‘their problem’ and there’s nothing you can do to change it. Because none of us are capable of developing any meaningful relationships with anyone else until we first fix our relationship with ourselves.
Could this be your problem? That you don’t love yourself? Maybe this is why you are not able to allow other people to connect with you in any sort of meaningful way.
To Develop Meaningful Relationships With Others, We First Need To Learn To Love Ourselves.
We could have hundreds or thousands of people ‘like’ us….. but none of it will mean anything to us if we do not love ourselves! Because how can we accept love from others if we consider that we are not even worthy of our own love?
The question of whether people like us or not is something we will only be concerned with if we are insecure and lacking in self-confidence. For people who are at peace with themselves and are enjoying their lives, whether other people like them or not is irrelevant.
It’s only insecure people that need the approval of others to reassure them that they are likable. The ‘likes’ give the impression, however only temporarily, that they are ok, that life isn’t so bad, and that they are somehow worthy. This allows the insecure person to temporarily suspend their dislike of themselves. They somehow reason that “if I’m liked by others, maybe I’m not so bad after all and maybe I could even like myself a little more?”
The problem we have is not one of being ‘unlikeable.’ The problem is our perception of ourselves. At some time in the past, we accepted an idea that we were unlikeable, and then the more we thought about it, or were exposed to this idea, the stronger it became.
Repeated thoughts become our beliefs…. and our beliefs become ingrained into our psyche. However, just because we currently believe something, does not mean it is true. We could have just as easily picked up on the times when we were liked, and people said complimentary things about us. If we did this, our beliefs would instead affirm that we are, in fact, likable and worthy of our own love.…
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Worrying Whether Other People Like You Or Not Is A Waste Of Your Time And Energy.
When has worrying about something ever had a positive effect on you or made the outcome of events and circumstances better? The answer would be NEVER!
Worrying if people like you or not doesn’t change anything…. well, that’s not entirely true, because it does make you sicker, depressed, and more stressed out!….. all these negative outcomes for no good reason….. it just seems a little crazy for you to waste your time and energy engaged in an activity that doesn’t achieve anything beneficial.
A better use of your time and energy would be to engage in activities that will be of benefit to you. So, why not ‘become’ the person you would like to be hanging out with? And because like attracts like, then you can make it a lifelong mission to constantly ‘upgrade’ yourself as your wants and desires change throughout your life. Yes, if you work on yourself to become a friend to yourself, you will then begin to attract similar people to you… the kind you want to hang out with.
The best way to do this is to fully immerse yourself in your own life and in the things you want to achieve. And by doing so, you will become too busy enjoying yourself to worry about whether other people like you or not!
7 Examples of How To Deal With People Who Don’t Like You
- Don’t take it personally. It’s important to remember that not everyone is going to like you. That’s just a fact of life. There are many reasons why someone might not like you, and it’s usually not anything personal. It could be that they have different values or interests, or that they’re simply having a bad day.
- Don’t let them get to you. It’s easy to let someone’s negative opinion of you get to you, but it’s important to remember that their opinion is just that: an opinion. It doesn’t define you or make you any less worthy of respect.
- Be confident. One of the best ways to deal with people who don’t like you is to be confident in yourself. When you’re confident, you don’t need the approval of others. You know who you are and what you’re worth, and that’s all that matters.
- Be kind. Even if someone doesn’t like you, it’s important to be kind to them. Kindness is a powerful force that can change people’s hearts. It may not change their opinion of you, but it will make you feel better about yourself.
- Set boundaries. If someone is being rude or disrespectful to you, it’s important to set boundaries. Let them know that their behavior is unacceptable and that you won’t tolerate it.
- Walk away. If someone is being particularly difficult, it’s sometimes best to walk away. There’s no need to engage with someone who is only trying to make you feel bad.
- Focus on the positive. It’s easy to get caught up in the negative when someone doesn’t like you, but it’s important to focus on the positive. Remember all the people who do like you and who appreciate you for who you are.
I know dealing with people who don’t like you can be tough, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Everyone has to deal with it at some point in their lives. By following these tips, you can better learn how to cope with people who don’t like you and move on with your life.
So, Should You Be Worried If Other People Don’t Like You?
We cannot be everything to everybody. It’s impossible to please everyone all of the time because people are just so diverse in their likes, wants, and needs.
Therefore, you should focus on the one thing that you have control over…. And that is yourself, (because you cannot control other people!) If you take better care of your mental and emotional states, you will come to understand that you can have a happy life regardless of whether other people like you or not.
If you’re not worried about what other people think, you’re free to be yourself. You can express your true opinions, even if they’re not popular. You can dress how you want, even if it’s not what everyone else is wearing. And you can surround yourself with people who accept you for who you are.
So, just go out and live your life to the fullest, and you will attract/manifest other people who are doing the same. This mutual attraction will give you a great quality of friends, people who think similarly to you, and enjoy doing similar things as you do.
And the happiness you will feel will help you understand that it doesn’t matter if some other people like you or not!
If you need guidance on the best way to do this, consider talking with the professionals over at Online Therapy.
Remember, it’s okay if not everyone likes you. The most important thing is to be true to yourself and to enjoy your life in the best way you can.