Have you ever stopped your busy life, sat down, relaxed, and brought your attention to your thoughts?
Do you think this sounds like a crazy thing to do? If so, you haven’t done it before….. or, you have done it, and you were scared/shocked by the endless chatter going on within your busy monkey mind!
The ‘unconscious mind’ is sometimes referred to as the ‘monkey mind’ because it is often running amok and causing trouble for us. What I mean by causing trouble is that: Our unconscious minds are very often not supporting us in achieving our goals and are, for much of the time, sabotaging our attempts to create the life we are dreaming of.
Self-sabotage occurs by thinking thoughts that do not align with our goals, hopes, and dreams. This will include the usual negative thoughts like ‘I’m not good/smart enough,’ I can’t do that,’ and ‘I never have enough money,’ etc.
However, not all thoughts have to be negative to prevent us from reaching our goals. They just need to be contradictory to our goals to have the same effect. For example, if our goal is to lose weight, we may have thoughts like ‘just one more chocolate won’t make any difference,’ and ‘I’ll skip exercising today because there are other things I need to do.’
We all have negative thoughts, and it is the degree that OUR MIND IS GENERATING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS that will determine if we achieve our desired outcomes, or not.
Our thoughts come from our minds, but what is our mind?
We may never fully understand how they generate our thoughts, interact with our body, our emotions, and our soul, but we do know that our minds are responsible for generating the content of our lives, and therefore the quality of our life experience.
Before we answer our question, “why do I have negative thoughts?” it is important to determine where our negative thoughts are coming from?
Our minds have different operating modes and each mode has specific functions to perform and is designed perfectly to accomplish these functions.
The reasons for our negative thoughts vary depending on if we are functioning with deliberate ‘conscious awareness,’ or are just ‘unconsciously reacting’ to what we are observing happening around us or to what someone else has said, etc.
Very briefly our mind is made up of three parts:
- Our subconscious mind: This is a massive storehouse filled with all the sensory information we have ever been exposed to as well as every response we have had to that information. For example, there are ‘filing cabinets’ filled with information we have learned about driving a car. Once learned and stored, we do not have to consciously learn this information again as we can just drive ‘automatically’ while thinking about what we are going to have for dinner. It’s also responsible for all the autonomic functions that keep our bodies functioning, like breathing, digestion, cellular reproduction, etc.
- Our conscious mind: This is what we use when actively learning how to do something new, looking for solutions to problems, or keenly listening when our friend is sharing their problems. This part of our mind is aware, able to reason, and sort through information, and can find new ways for us to act and react in our environment.
- Our unconscious mind: This is the link between the two. Its role is to enable us to function effectively throughout our daily lives, while not being actively conscious of all the details. For example, we can be cooking dinner, chatting with mum on the phone, and thinking about what the kids are doing, all at the same time, and giving none of the tasks our full attention. This is possible because we have done these tasks many times before, and have memories of our previous experiences and responses stored in our subconscious filing cabinets. Our unconscious mind uses these previous experiences to enables us to complete all tasks satisfactorily.
So, our negative thoughts may be unconsciously generated (from the files stored within our subconscious minds) or, we may be consciously
generating new negative thoughts. The reasons for each condition are different, as are the ways to overcome our negative thoughts.
Unconscious Mind: Why am I still having negative thoughts as an adult- even though I don’t choose to!
Unfortunately, this is an all too common scenario that most of us suffer to varying degrees.
If we are not choosing our negative and self-defeating thoughts, and notice that we are having them, it is because they are already programmed into us, deep within our subconscious minds.
We learned many of our responses (thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes) when we were young and impressionable. Our vulnerable minds received ideas, beliefs, and attitudes from those closest to us from the day we were born. And even if we did not immediately understand the language, we understood the ‘vibration’ that was being transmitted, and this is why, as children, we so easily adopted many of the beliefs and attitudes of our caregivers.
Because our subconscious mind cannot discriminate between which feelings, thoughts, and emotions, would be for our future benefit, and which would work against us, we unconsciously received ALL the fears, doubts, anxieties, frustrations, (as well as the good stuff,) that we were exposed to and stored them away in our filing cabinet for later reference and use.
So, now our filing cabinet is filled with a lot of information that we never consciously chose to accept, but is there by default. And anytime we are not consciously creating our thoughts with awareness, by focusing on what we are doing, our mind does the only thing it can do. It draws from the information that is already available and familiar. And unfortunately for us, this also includes all the negativity we have been programmed with and have filed away throughout our lives.
We often catch ourselves thinking negatively because:
Depending upon which research papers you read, scientists tell us that we have between 6000 and 60,000 thoughts a day. Up to ninety-five percent of those thoughts are unconscious, and of those unconscious thoughts, up to eighty percent can be negative. And this is a big problem for us, as these self-defeating negative thoughts keep popping up day after day and sabotage our goals, making it difficult at times for us to live a happy life.
Conscious Mind: Ok, I’ll admit it! Some of my negative thoughts are my choice!
To make matters worse (as if our unconscious mind running amok and sabotaging our dreams wasn’t bad enough) some of us even consciously choose to have negative thoughts about ourselves, about others, and about events and circumstances in our lives!
Ummmm…. I can’t speak for all you wonderful people reading this post, but I know in the past I have consciously held on to thoughts that kept me in an angry state (for example.) At the time, I felt justified doing this because I thought I was right, and I wanted everyone to know it!
Way back then, I didn’t understand that these feelings of anger and the angry thoughts I was having were being added to my filing cabinet of memories and further reinforcing that ‘This is the way I react when this situation occurs.’ Therefore, the next time this situation or a similar one occurs, my unconscious mind could take over and my ‘go-to’ reaction would be anger again!
It’s a vicious cycle that I am sure many of you can relate to. Some people can even live their whole lives and never escape from many of their unconscious self-sabotaging habits. (Please, don’t let this be you!)
I decided I wasn’t going to be one of them and set about learning how to change my thoughts to change my world! The main catalyst for change was when I came to understand that MY ANGER WAS ONLY HURTING ME, NO ONE ELSE BUT ME! So, I took measures to begin changing my self-destructive unconscious habits so I could improve my life experience by including more fun, adventure, abundance, and love.
Will challenging our negative thoughts create a better life experience?
So, our negative thoughts can come from our subconscious mind (old programs) as reactions to events and circumstances in our daily lives, and they can also be new creations that we consciously choose to think, like yuk, why did he choose to wear that shirt today <=== (not a life-threatening thought, but still negative and affecting the way we feel!)
Our thoughts are directly responsible for the way we feel, and the way we feel is very, very, very, important. Why?
BECAUSE WE CAN NEVER HAVE A HAPPY ENDING TO OUR LIVES IF OUR JOURNEY HAS BEEN FILLED WITH UNHAPPY THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS!
It’s the journey, it’s the journey, and it’s the journey that is important! The way we are feeling along the way is creating a particular vibration and setting us up for more of the same. So, if we’re not enjoying the journey so far, we better do something about how we are feeling, to raise our vibration so we can achieve a great outcome!
How do we do this?
Not by challenging negative thoughts, Not by overcoming negative thinking, Not by getting rid of negative thoughts or eliminating negative thoughts, But by consciously choosing positive, uplifting, self-supportive, constructive, and creative thoughts that align with our goals, hopes, and dreams!
WE NEED TO STOP FOCUSING ON UNWANTED THINGS…… BECAUSE THESE THOUGHTS CAN NEVER HELP US TO GET TO WHERE WE WANT TO BE! They just hold us in that negative vibrational state, and this just wears us out. It’s tiring because most of us then try to compensate for our self-defeating thinking with our physical actions…… talk about a lose-lose situation!
Even if we have the ‘right action’ to achieve our desired outcomes, when our thoughts are not positively aligned with these actions, it is impossible to achieve or receive what we want.
My current thought patterns have resulted in my current life circumstances….. How do I get an ‘upgrade?’
Our current way of thinking has resulted in the life circumstances that we are currently living. However, our future does not need to be a continuation of more of the same. We can begin upgrading our experience now!
We are not our thoughts (they are just programs running in our minds that we have accumulated) and we can choose to think and install new and better programs that WILL work for us.
To achieve a different and better life experience WE must introduce NEW thought patterns into our minds.
How do we do this?
My previous post, How to change your thoughts to change your world goes into this in detail, so I won’t repeat the information here. But, briefly, we have two main avenues to introduce thoughts that align with our goals: Through better quality conscious thinking, and by directly implanting information into our subconscious minds. You can read about these methods here.
What goals should I try to achieve first?
Most people have goals that revolve around finances, love, career, family, etc. And yes, go for what is important for you. However, what is the point of achieving your goals in one aspect of life if other aspects are out of balance?
I’ve chosen to walk a path that gives priority to my OVERALL WELLBEING. I’m not suggesting that everyone go down the same road, but there are benefits to choosing this path. The main benefit is that the WHOLE JOURNEY becomes lighter and more joyous All the TIME. This is because our overall vibration improves and this makes it possible for everything else that we desire to flow more easily into our experience.
Abundance is available everywhere, and we just need to ‘tune’ ourselves into the frequency of what we desire, and it will be attracted (Law of Attraction) to our experience.
OUR LIVES ARE AS GOOD AS WE ALLOW THEM TO BE….. because of what we think!
Imagine: You are the lead actor in your life movie. You also wrote, produced, and directed this movie. What story would you create for yourself?
And, HOW WOULD THIS MAKE YOU FEEL?
Shared with love and respect for all souls who have chosen to play The Game of Life!
May your journey be filled with joy, excitement, and endless wonder.