Generally, young children from all walks of life can get along even if they do not speak a common language. They will play and share as a natural way of being and have no reason to fear each other. Instinctively, as children, most of us wanted to have fun and we enjoyed learning about the world together.
I think most of us can remember a time in our past when we were more carefree and more tolerant than we are today. However, nothing lasts forever, and unfortunately, as we grew up, we became less carefree and less tolerant than we once were.
So what changed to make our lives more restricted, more fearful, and less fun than they were when we were children?
Have I Been Programmed To Succeed or Fail?
We are born empty of beliefs, ideas, and thoughts. The environment in which we grow provides us with the information which our brains need to develop. If that environment is filled with happy and successful people, it’s likely that we will inherit similar beliefs, and they will become the foundation that we build our lives upon. If however, we are exposed to nothing but lack, fear, and trauma when our minds are developing, then our lives will typically be filled with struggle and disappointment.
We Were Forced To Grow Up And Obey The Rules
As we grew, we learned and took on more beliefs specific to our culture and the environment we were raised in. Some of these beliefs became ingrained so deeply within us that they became unconscious programs that even now run in the back of our minds, without our conscious awareness.
When young, we learned by watching and participating in the activities that occurred within our environment- initially with parents, siblings, and others who are close to our family. As we aged, other influences were teachers, friends, media, etc. And it was to our advantage to copy the mental and emotional responses and behaviors of these people as we existed among them. And so, we effectively become ‘socialized’ and accepted by others in our environment.
Socialization allowed us to easily integrate because we shared (have been programmed to accept) the beliefs and habits with others within this environment. Our integration was smooth if we unconsciously agreed with the same sets of values, attitudes, ideas, and doctrine (concerning social, cultural, political, economic, religious, sporting, ecological issues, etc.) that were ‘approved of’ by the others in our lives.
This process of socialization is a form of brainwashing that is considered necessary by our peers so that we could ‘fit in’ and interact (without too much friction) with our family and society in general. We were taught to obey the family rules, rules at school, society’s standards, church rules, etc. And all so that we did not upset anyone else that may not approve if we didn’t conform to what was expected of us. In effect, we adopted and accepted what is known as a ‘consensus reality’ view of life.
Then, as we grew and become parents ourselves, we were expected to repeat the cycle and ‘program’ our children so they too would become conforming, valuable, members of society. By continuing this process, the people around us could relax in the knowledge that they will not be too severely challenged and will not feel threatened by someone who behaves and acts differently radically from what they know, expect, and are comfortable with.
Socialization is Inevitable, But Is This The Best Way To Raise Our Children?
It is the most dysfunctional and fearful parents that insist the strongest that their children conform to their beliefs. They need their children to obey and become like them so they are not threatened by what they do not yet know and understand. The last thing these parents want is for their children to think for themselves and challenge their assumption of ‘authority.’
This is very unfortunate for the children and a very unproductive way for anyone to learn anything. It’s based on the necessity of the children to conform so they will be loved and accepted. The child will, therefore, naturally accept, consciously or unconsciously, the dogma of those closest to them. This is regardless of the dogma having any truth, being relevant, or having any long-term benefits for the individual, family, society, or the planet as a whole.
The progression of socialization is, more often than not, a process based on fear where the child is endlessly terrorized into adopting the preferred dogma of the surrounding people. Children may be subtly or forcefully manipulated into complying with the wishes of the adults through varying degrees of mental, emotional, and physical abuse, bribery, or a combination of any or all of the above.
Of course, the parents do not always get their children to behave the way they want, but the children will still be affected, mentally, emotionally, and/or physically by the process.
This conditioning, (the beliefs, attitudes, and ideas that the adults force upon their children), becomes the child’s fundamental subconscious mind programs. They become unconsciously entrenched so deeply into the psyche of the child that the individual may go through their whole life without being able to recognize the effects this early programming has in shaping the outcomes of their entire life. And because these programs are often deep and hidden, they are not easily accessible for reconsideration even when better information is made available that would if adopted, be to the advantage of the individual.
How Badly Have You Been Affected By Early Childhood Programming?
As a child, you may have been programmed to believe things like “you have to work hard to make money,” and “there is not enough for everyone.” Unfortunately, these beliefs, unless overwritten, will continue to form the basis of your beliefs about money for the rest of your life. So a child who has this belief (consciously or subconsciously) will struggle for their whole life just to get by.
This is because we attract to us what we believe to be true…We are the creators of our own reality by manifesting what we are thinking about most of the time… Unfortunately, we don’t attract to us what we only occasionally wish for!
All of us are subject to the same Universal Laws and can only ever create for ourselves what we believe to be real. If you want to understand what you truly believe, you need to start becoming aware of your unconscious thoughts, more of the time. This is because it is our most common thoughts that are manifesting as our predominant feelings (the rate at which we vibrate.) And the way we feel most of the time is a feedback loop that reveals to us what we actually believe on a subconscious level.
So, as we go through our lives, we are playing out a set of mind programs that were forced upon us by those closest to us when we were young and impressionable…. and we are still, to this day, reaping the rewards/hardships that those programmed beliefs are attracting to us. And it is the same for everyone. However…
… we all lead different lives according to the programs/unconscious beliefs we hold. We all have unique vibrational frequencies related to all aspects of our lives which attract to us the results that match our innermost beliefs.
Unfortunately, if our parents and others around us were in unhappy and dysfunctional relationships, then this became the model that we are likely to adopt in regard to our relationships. This means we would be very likely to end up in a similar situation… unless we are able to change our unconscious beliefs about relationships to attract a different outcome.
Your Deeply Ingrained Beliefs, Ideas, and Values Shape How Your Interact With The World Which Creates The Circumstances Of Your Life.
It seems that most people do not question the belief system that is imposed upon them from birth. They willingly accept it, continue to live with it, and then pass it on to future generations. This is why, for example, wealthy families have children who grow up to become wealthy, and low-income families have children who generally remain in financial circumstances similar to their early life influencers. We are just reaping the results of the ‘belief systems’ that we were programmed with when we were young and impressionable!
This is just how it is and has been for many ages. However, it does not need to continue to be this way.
Instead, we could be asking ourselves if we want to continue to live our life as a product/prisoner of our previous programming, or should we be thinking about doing things differently so that we can make a better life for ourselves? After all, these programs and ideas we currently have were never our own but were given to us by others who were also following the programs they received from previous generations.
Wealthy people and poor people think differently about money. Why?
Happy people and unhappy people think differently and respond differently to the same events/situations. Why?
Fearful people and confident people are thinking different thoughts and taking different actions when facing the same situation. Why?
… because we believe differently, that’s all. We were programmed to see things differently and to expect different results. And it is our subconscious programs that are responsible for the beliefs we hold, which are forming up to 95% of the unconscious thoughts we have. These thoughts then create our reality, as they determine what actions we take, what responses we have, and how we feel at any given time. In other words……. Our thoughts add together to create the circumstances of our life!
Every thought you have ever had has led to another, and another, and another, which has culminated into the exact life you are living here and now!
So, what are you thinking now? Is it going to contribute to making your future better or not?
How Can You Create Better Circumstances For The Rest Of Your Life?
If you are currently not living the life of your dreams, it is because many of the beliefs you now hold are not helping you achieve your goals. So, maybe it’s time to question many of the things you believe to be real. Ideas that you have inherited from previous generations may not be serving you well… the world is constantly changing in ways that previous generations could not imagine, so now is a great time to update your beliefs so you can begin creating what you want.
Once you understand that your beliefs are only a collection of ideas that you were exposed to while growing up, you can empower yourself by choosing to begin thinking differently. It is possible to re-program yourself with ‘upgraded information’ to reflect the direction that you wish your life to take.
Remember: Your programmed beliefs cause you to think, act, and react in limited ways, which gives an equal and balanced result in your lives. To change the results you are getting, you just need to change the predominant thoughts you have which will cause you to act/react differently… resulting in different outcomes for you.
What Is The Best Way To Create a Better Life for You and Those You Love?
If you desire to change some of the circumstances of your life, you need to look at the thoughts you are having in regard to love, finances, happiness, etc. and then begin changing them to better reflect the outcomes you desire.
If you desire to be happy, you will never achieve it by thinking of unhappy thoughts! Happy thoughts lead to a happy life. Most people know that you cannot wait to have a happy life to begin being happy. You have to have the ‘feeling’ of happiness now, in order to live a happy life! The feeling must come first, and you can actually choose to be happy right now! Try It! It’s easy, just choose to have some happy thoughts now!
The same is true for finances. You cannot have thoughts about lack/wanting more, fear, and stress regarding money, and expect abundant money to just materialize into your life. Your thoughts of worry over money only lead to more thoughts of anxiety and lack, so this is what you will continue to receive.
To change your circumstances, you must appreciate all that you currently have and no longer think negatively about money or your lack of it. Appreciation and gratitude are a vibration that will attract more for you to appreciate and more to be grateful for into your life……. but only if you stop sabotaging yourself by continuing to think fearfully about your lack of money!
Love……. You cannot attract love into your life if you do not love yourself! If you do not love yourself, for whatever reason, then you are thinking that you are unworthy to be loved. So why would anyone else love you? Your thoughts of unworthiness attract people into your life who reflect back to you what you think about yourself. Ouch!
To attract genuine love, you need to fall in love with yourself first…… it’s not hard, and you are worthy of love!
You are a magnificently created being here on this planet to have an incredible adventure…….. choose to make it so, and it will become so!
Then fall in love with everyone else, see them for what they truly are, magnificent beings, here playing the game of life, just for the fun and drama that the experience provides… all of us, actors in a play on the stage of life (this beautiful world that we all share).
Your Future Is Your Choice, And It Begins With What You Are Thinking Now!
Make some time every day to sit quietly and reflect on your life.
Are you happy?
Would you like some aspects of your life to be different than they currently are?
Maybe you desire better health, more wealth, more love, or more fun.
All of these things, and so much more, are within your grasp….. it is possible to have all the things you desire.
But first, you have to believe it and feel it with all of your being.
It is your thoughts and feelings that are vibrating and sending signals out into the Universal Mind that is attracting back to you in exact accordance with the energy you are radiating. This is the natural, uncompromising, LAW OF ATTRACTION at work in every moment of our lives!
Creating a better life is as simple as focusing on what you want more of the time… rather than letting your old subconscious programming attract more of the same… If you can do this, you will soon begin to notice improvements in your life!
Be positive and believe in yourself… after all, you are an amazing being, and you are here for the experience of being alive in a physical body to enjoy the GAME OF LIFE.
Choose to enjoy more of your moments, each and every day, and your life will be forever changed for the better!
2 thoughts on “Have I Been Programmed To Succeed or Fail?”
Hello there! This is another example of why I loathe the public school system. Also, I find myself being my parents even in ways I know they were dead wrong. Yes, we were poor. Still poor. Thankfully, our oldest son is making his way into a better success than his forebears. I can only hope and pray the cycle of stupidity ends. Thank you for this wonderful article!
Hi Cathy. The public school system is designed to maintain the status quo. That is, a few will succeed, the majority will achieve mediocrity, and some will live a miserable life. It’s encouraging to know that your son is doing better than the previous generations. It is possible for us all to succeed and you must have contributed during his upbringing to help him break out of the cycle. if he can do it, so can you…… it’s just a matter of having the desire and proper focus and you too can improve your life’s circumstances.
I wish you all the best,
Kind regards, Andrew