If our lives sometimes suck, it’s sort of OK. Because it means there are many other times that they don’t suck. However, if we are feeling down for the majority of the time, then we have a problem that needs to be sorted out….. because our lives are NOT meant to suck!
We are here to have a wonderful, uplifting, and fun experience. And if this is not the case, then we are probably approaching life in ways that are not beneficial for our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing…..
The fact that all of us have, in the past, experienced joy, happiness, love, or some fun, for no matter how brief a time, means that these experiences are possible again…. They are an inherent part of our nature. And if we desire these positive feelings strongly enough, we can learn to make them a greater aspect of our daily experiences on a more regular basis.
(If you’re not interested in helping yourself, you are on the wrong page….. this post, like all of mine, is for grown-ups, people who realize they are responsible for creating the circumstances of their own lives through their thoughts and actions…..And they take action to help themselves instead of waiting around for other people to fix their problems……)
With that in mind, let’s look at some quotes about “Sometimes, Life Just Sucks,” and discover how we can help ourselves to turn it around and make our lives better…..
Sometimes Life Just Sucks!
“As you look for a better-feeling way to approach whatever you are giving your attention to; as you continue to ask yourself from your ever-changing vantage point, “What is it that I do want?”… Eventually you will be standing in a very pleasing place—for you cannot continually ask yourself what it is that you do want without your point of attraction beginning to pivot in that direction. The process will be gradual, but your continued application of the process will yield wonderful results in only a few days.” – Abraham Hicks
The above quote by Abraham starts with the words “As YOU look for a better-feeling way……” This tells us that the feeling that life sucks or is great is a choice that we are making for ourselves. Because our results are dependent on “whatever WE are giving our attention to….”
It’s quite obvious that if we are thinking sucky-feeling thoughts that we are going to be having a sucky experience…. Solution: We can all change the way we are feeling at any time by changing the thoughts we are having. It’s impossible to be thinking loving thoughts and to remain feeling down…… try it!
If we give our attention to the things we do want to create, we will become enthusiastic and passion will be ignited within us. And when this happens, our depression, anxieties, fears, insecurities, and doubts just melt away. To learn more, check out my post: How Can I End My Suffering? (7 Quick Ways To Reduce Our Suffering And Make Our Lives Better)
“Just because your life sucks, doesn’t mean you have to make other people’s lives suck.”
So, how often do we mope around, in a miserable mood waiting for others to feel sorry for us, to sympathize with us, and to hopefully cheer us up? Do we even want them to cheer us up, or would we rather just continue to feel depressed….. and maybe we even try to bring them down to our level so we don’t feel bad by ourselves?
What sort of person does this make us? Do people who behave like this even understand the meaning of family and friends?
Sure, there are times when it’s perfectly normal to be sad. Our cat may have passed away, we may not have got the promotion/pay rise we wanted, our best friend may have said something to upset us, etc. However, is anything that happens a good reason to involve others in our suffering?
Our suffering is an internal experience…. It’s not the result of the events and circumstances in the world around us, but it is the result of the way we think about the stuff that is happening. It is the thoughts we have about stuff that results in the way we feel concerning it. And the way we think is not the same as everyone else.
Sure, those we share our lives with deserve to know how we are feeling, but let’s not suck the life out of them by trying to bring them down to our level….They are much more beneficial to us (and themselves) if their mental and emotional health remains high. So share with them, but don’t lay the burden of ‘feeling the same as us’ upon them. Because the way we are thinking about stuff and consequently feeling is not their problem….. it’s ours.
“Maybe it’s not life that sucks. Maybe it’s just the people you let in your life that suck.”
In contrast to us making other’s lives suck, people we know may be exerting negative influence over the quality of our thoughts and therefore bringing us down. We all know someone that always makes us feel worse than the way we felt before we were in their presence. And that really does suck!
Some people are just naturally able to turn anything good we say into a negative. They have an excuse, a reason, a story, etc. that always brings the conversation down. And the worst part is that they can often be a family member or a close friend…..
These people are fundamentally unhappy with their own lives, and really, we need to stay away from them! It’s like we are being given a shot of poison every time we are in their presence. And over time, if we let it, this poison spreads out like an infectious disease and affects our entire system.
Our thoughts and emotions can become tainted and this will negatively affect how we behave in the world. Our thoughts, feelings, words, and actions, take on meanings that reflect their negativity if we are not careful and strong enough to maintain our own integrity.
How many people do you have in your life that make you feel better while in their presence? These are the ones we need to gravitate towards and find more of. The others, those that bring us down, we need to run far from them for the sake of our health and wellbeing. The quality of our lives comes down to the choices we are making……
“The truth is that life is delicious, horrible, charming, frightful, sweet, bitter, and that is everything.” – Anatole France
No one can be expected to live ‘a perfect life’ all the time. And really, why would we want to?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there is no growth, no desire for anything new and different if we are content all the time. We need the friction, the contrast, and the diversity, as these are the things that stimulate our desires to change from the things we don’t want and to imagine the lives we do want.
When stuff happens that makes you feel like your life sucks, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? This is important- because it shows how YOU have been programmed to deal with adversity.
Do you curl up in a ball and feel sorry for yourselves, or do you pick yourselves up, and use this as a ‘jumping point’ to think better and do better next time?
Stuff is always going to happen that is beyond our control. People are always going to say and do things that we don’t like. However, it is how we choose to think about it that determines how we feel. And it benefits us if we accept this. If we don’t, we will be constantly engaging in negative thoughts and therefore feelings. And negativity is damaging to us, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
The acceptance that life is not always going to turn out as we want allows us to relax, to be comfortable, and feel at peace. This creates a good foundation, a place from which we can grow. Having a peaceful, relaxed, mind also gives us time and space to reflect on our lives and to dream of a better future.
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“It’s a most mortifying reflection for a man to consider what he has done, compared to what he might have done.” – Samuel Johnson
So, there are many reasons we can give why our life sucks. As discussed above, they include: We are focused on the wrong things, we have people in our lives who are negatively influencing us, and we wrongly consider that when things don’t go our way that it is a ‘bad’ thing.’
But what about when we take stock of our lives and we haven’t achieved our goals and dreams because we didn’t do what was required? In this case, the result is entirely our fault. Upon reflection, we are hardly going to say ‘that was a great life!’ It’s more than likely we are going to be disappointed with ourselves and our life in general.
Why not take a moment now to just check in with how you are feeling about your lives up to this point. Pause, take a few long slow deep breaths with your eyes closed and get a sense of how you are feeling. There’s no need to be too specific as our lives are made up of so many different events, experiences, relationships, beliefs, circumstances, etc……
How is it to be you, here and now?
Are you currently happy, or less than happy, with your overall experience?
Has your satisfaction with your experience been improving or declining in the past few years or months? And what’s brought about this negative or positive change?
And now close your eyes again and imagine where you are going to be in one year, or five years if you continue as you are now…….
Does this image please you? Or would you like things to be different/better than the picture you saw?
Because you are here, reading this now, it means you still have time…… time to create a better future- if that is what you desire. And the good news is that it can begin right now! Because, as with all things in life, we have many choices available to us.
And a better future begins by choosing thoughts that inspire you to take the correct actions to achieve the results you desire……. Will you begin doing what it takes?
………after all, none of us what to be looking back on our lives and regretting the things that we could have done, but didn’t!
Here’s to a wonderful life….. and if you have any quotes of your own that you would like to add in the comments to “Sometimes, Life Just Sucks,” it would make my day suck a little less, haha!
Have a great day,
Andrew
I like your way of looking at this not always pleasant journey called life. Your direct and insightful advice is directed only to that person who has a problem with accepting life situations in general. You don’t think other people need to be blamed for life circumstances but only us, and that’s great. That means all the power is in us. As you said, everything depends on perception and angle of view.
As for me, I don’t experience the same thing then and now. I have to admit that I used to be very sensitive to criticism and unpleasant life situations. I found it hard to bear the well-meaning criticism of my friends, and job loss threw me into a severe depression. Until I realized that the problem was in me, in my way of looking at things. Now I realize that negative emotions and experiences were just a lesson more that helped me mature and strengthen.
Right now I’m trying to teach that to my friend too. She has a problem with regretting life and reacting violently when life sucks. I will forward this text to her so that she can learn from an experienced teacher like you. I’m sure it will help.
Thank you and continue to help us live a better and more beautiful life.
Danijela
Hi Danijela, Thanks for sharing 🙂
It’s easy to blame other people or events for our unfortunate circumstances. Unfortunately, it’s an automatic reaction for most of us. However, it doesn’t actually do anything to positively address the situation or the next situation that we think sucks, or the next and the next….. because you can guarantee that even if someone does something to piss us off, it is not the only time we are ever going to be pissed off by others.
So what are our choices…. demand that everyone who pisses us of changes so that their words, and actions ‘fit in’ with how we think things should be??? In this group of people and things who piss us off sometimes, we would have to sometimes censor our boss, our partner, our kids, the dog, demand the weather change, and ensure that there was never a queue of people waiting at the bank before us. So, the reality is that we cannot have control over all the circumstances in our lives……
Yes, sometimes life does just suck! It’s a fact that not everything will always turn out the way we want! However……. we can control the way we react…. and if you want to live a miserable life, keep having negative reactions. If you want to live a happier life, take responsibility for the way you are feeling and do your best at all times to reach for ‘good feeling’ thoughts, regardless of the circumstances, and in this way, your lives will become better.
I wish you all the best,
Andrew