Our thoughts are responsible for attracting ALL the content of our lives. They give our lives shape and meaning, and because of what we are thinking, we form perceptions of how good, or not, our life is.
If we can remain optimistic and think only of happy life-affirming thoughts, we will attract to us circumstances to match, and our lives are good. However, if we lack confidence, have low self-esteem, and are generally negative in the way we view events, circumstances, and other people, then this is returned to us, and consequently, our lives don’t seem so good….. Therefore, the quality of our life experience is dependent on the quality of thoughts that we habitually think.
This is really important, yet so few people understand that the quality and circumstances of our life experience are OUR responsibility, AND it is one hundred percent dependent on our ‘internal world’ of thoughts and feelings.
Unfortunately, most of us have been taught to focus our attention on the world outside of ourselves, and to look for solutions to our discontent and problems everywhere else except where the real and lasting solutions lie….. The solutions are within us and are to be found in our predominant thought patterns– which are responsible for the things we have come to believe.
So, why did we learn to think the way we currently do, and are our current thought patterns the best ones we can have?
Why Do We Think The Way We Do?
We are not born with thoughts and beliefs. Our thoughts are programmed into us as a result of the environment we live in and the people we are exposed to while we are young and impressionable. Therefore what we think about the world is relative to our country, culture, socio-economic class, and politics and the health of our parents, siblings, friends, etc. Therefore, our thoughts don’t reflect the ‘truth’ but rather just our impressions of our environment.
Where do your thoughts come from?
Have you ever considered: Where did the particular attitudes and viewpoints that you hold regarding, politics, education, wealth, sex, religion, etc. come from? And whether or not you were born with your beliefs already programmed into you?
The answer is no, you were not born with any ideas, beliefs, or thoughts of your own. You have acquired everything that you believe and think to be true or false, good and bad, beautiful and ugly, etc. from others as you were growing up. Therefore, the beliefs you hold are not a part of your ‘original self’ but have been learned.
The particular thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes you have acquired are a direct result of the specific environment that you were raised in.
It is for this reason that you think differently from others who were brought up in a different country, with a different religion, different socio-economic groups, different political affiliations, etc. Not only that, but we all have different thoughts from our neighbors, friends, and family members….. all because the particular ideas and beliefs we formulated when growing up were unique to us because of the sensory information we were exposed to when young and impressionable. No two people on the planet will ever think exactly the same about everything! However, we can have many beliefs in common.
This not only applies to us, but also to everyone else, including those who programmed us, and their programmers as well. We are ALL, in essence, living our lives according to the attitudes, beliefs and indoctrination passed down from those who programmed us and because of the information we were exposed to in the specific environments that we were raised in. And we in turn teach our children what we believe to be true in the hopes that we are setting them up to have a great life experience. However, what we believe and teach our children may not be the best information available!
This becomes very important, especially when you consider that not all the information acquired by us may be true or still be relevant! I say this because society, and life in general, has changed significantly over the previous five or six generations. Therefore, a lot of the beliefs we inherited, which have led to the habitual thoughts we are having, are not actually guiding us towards living the best life possible. In some cases, the beliefs we hold are essentially damaging to our overall health and well-being.
What you habitually think about may be preventing you from achieving your goals!
We just need to look at the gap between ‘the life we wish to be living’ and the reality of our lives now, to know that the thoughts we are regularly thinking (that have led to our current life circumstances) are not always aligned with our goals and dreams.
This is especially true when we consider that many of the beliefs we have were programmed into us by OTHERS who are not living lives that align with OUR goals and dreams. So, their beliefs and desires, when programmed into us, will not help us get what we want.
For example… Our great-grandparents and grandparents may have been brought up in extremely harsh environments, or in The Great Depression. At certain times in their lives, they may have struggled just to get the basic necessities for everyday survival. They may have lived through wars and seen family members and friends’ lives cut short through poverty, violence, starvation, etc.
All of these events, and many others, had a huge impact on the way they thought and felt about life. The beliefs that they formulated and passed on to the next generation may have included things like life is a constant struggle just to survive; there is never enough food to go around; money is scarce and hard to make, etc. And it’s natural that they would have (unintentionally) passed on some remnants of these deep-seated beliefs through the next generations, and maybe even along to you.
So, even though we live in a world of plenty, where, worldwide, vast amounts of food are thrown away each day, advances in healthcare can save many lives, and central banks have a license to print more money as it is needed, we may still be holding onto some beliefs like ‘I have to work hard for everything I want, I’m not deserving of a better life, or, there is never enough to go around.’
Luckily, WE ARE NOT our thoughts and beliefs!
Our self-defeating beliefs are often buried so deep in our subconscious minds that we may not even be aware of them. However, they are still having a profound impact on the quality of our lives. To begin the process of changing our lives for the better, it’s critical for us to understand that, WE ARE NOT OUR THOUGHTS AND BELIEFS!
Our thoughts and beliefs are just programs that we have acquired…… they are not set in stone and we can change them any time we want! Therefore, our future does not need to be a continuation of what we are experiencing today.
But first, we need to identify which aspects of our life we wish to improve. Do we want to attract more: money, freedom, love, friendships, confidence, health, etc…… It’s up to us.
In what ways do you want your life experience to improve? Take a minute and think about this because it’s really important!
It’s important because: We cannot get to where we want to be by continuing to think the same thoughts and doing the same things that got us to where we are now!
How do I find out which thoughts are limiting me?
Up to ninety-five percent of what we think every day is unconscious- so our conscious mind is not actively involved in generating these thoughts. They are just a regurgitation of information that is already stored in our subconscious minds….. including our inherited beliefs, stuff that may or may not be true, and any self-limiting and self-defeating thoughts we have picked up along the way.
How often have you caught yourself saying stuff like:
- I can’t afford that
- I’ll never be as good as them
- I can’t do it
- What if they don’t like me
- I’ll never get a good job like that
- I’m too old, young, stupid, fat, thin, lazy, and clumsy…..
This type of negative self-talk is common and is a knee-jerk unconscious response based on our core beliefs. It is these unconscious thoughts, (which make up about ninety-five percent of our thoughts each day) that are creating the content of our lives.
Our thoughts and feelings are not physical things, they are energy, and all energy vibrates at specific frequencies. We know this by the different ‘feeling’ we receive when standing with a loving person compared to someone who is angry and hateful. The ‘vibe’ (vibration) we receive from the two is very different.
Our feelings emit a vibrational signal that acts as a magnet to draw circumstances that exactly match that signal back into our lives. So, our current life circumstances are a direct result of how we have been predominantly thinking and feeling about life and ourselves throughout our life. The Law of Attraction says that we will receive in the exact measure the vibration that we are emitting into the world. It simply cannot be any other way!
Therefore, all we need to do to find out what self-limiting thoughts are lurking in our subconscious minds is to take a good look at our current life circumstances.
Do you have as much money, freedom, love, friendships, confidence, health, etc…… that you desire? If not, then you have some self-limiting beliefs that are invading your mind when you are living in auto-pilot mode, (not consciously thinking, but just reacting based on your subconscious beliefs) and these un-beneficial thoughts are vibrating and attracting to them results that match the thoughts. Is this what you want for the rest of your life?
How can I change my self-limiting beliefs to create a better life for myself?
So, we are as we are, here and now, for better or worse. Let’s get on with it!
The good news is this: We do not need to remain a victim to any of our limiting mind programs. As mentioned, we are not this collection of thoughts and beliefs……
Our thoughts are just tools (energy) we use to create the content of our lives. And if we are not happy with certain aspects of our life, we can direct this energy, through focused awareness of our thoughts, to actively create any future life that we desire.
We all do this already, to varying degrees, as we grow and change throughout our lives. We all know people who have changed their probable futures, i.e. some people born into poverty become wealthy, and some who grow up lacking confidence grow to be great leaders…… They have overcome their limiting mind programs, and so can we!
WE CAN ALL CHANGE WHAT WE THINK ABOUT, AND THEREFORE CHANGE WHAT WE ACHIEVE AND RECEIVE.
And change begins with self-awareness.
Our incredible minds will work for us once we learn how to use them properly.
Presently, for much of each day, most of us are having so many conflicting and confusing thoughts that our powerful mind is unable to determine what we actually wish to achieve.
Thinking positive thoughts towards our dream future for five to ten minutes a day will not cancel out the energy created when the other ninety-five percent of our thoughts are about: did I turn the dishwasher on, what’s for dinner tonight, does this outfit make me look fat, or I hope I will not embarrass myself in tomorrow’s meeting.
Sure, we have stuff going on in our lives that requires our attention. The kids need to be fed, we need to answer the phone, go to work, and pay our taxes. There is no denying that THERE IS A LOT OF STUFF THAT NEEDS TO BE ATTENDED TO ON A DAILY BASIS THAT KEEPS OUR FOCUS AWAY FROM OUR GOALS AND DREAMS.
However, our minds are amazing and are capable of ACHIEVING MUCH MORE THAT WE GIVE THEM CREDIT FOR. There are always choices available that will lead us closer to our goals. However, if we are unaware that we have choices, we will continue to think the same thoughts over and over again and therefore continue to attract similar circumstances to what we already have!
Our incredible mind is doing the only thing that it is capable of. It is following the programs that we have acquired throughout our lifetime. And if our circumstances are not what we want, it is only because we have not re-programmed our minds to achieve them!
Most people seem content to accept a limited life experience ‘just as it is,’ including those that programmed you, and this is why we have never been taught how to re-program ourselves properly to achieve our goals and dreams.
Solutions: How to achieve your goals and live your dream life
I have written many posts on this website that go into detail about how important it is to reprogram our minds if we wish to achieve better outcomes in our lives. To begin creating a better life for yourself and those you love, check out some of my posts listed below or view the main menu for more great solutions.
Learn how to meditate:
Learn how to reprogram your subconscious mind to work for you:
Learn how to raise your vibration:
Learn how to use The Law of Attraction:
Learn how to become more mindful:
I wish you all the best on your journey through life. Why not choose to make it the best life possible?
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