What we receive from life depends on how much we value ourselves: Are you getting all that you want?

What we receive from life depends on how much we value ourselves: Are you getting all that you want?

It is OK to receive without feeling guilty. This was a hard lesson for me to learn because I was brought up being told that ‘I have to work hard for everything I want in life.’ Therefore, when opportunities came along that I did not work hard for, I felt unworthy of receiving the benefits they presented.

When doing an after-school job for a neighbor on a regular basis, one day he told me that he would give me a pay rise. It equated to 20% more than I was currently being paid. Not a great amount, but my reaction was to say that it was not necessary to pay me more and I would continue to work for the previous amount.

He said to me ‘Never look a gift horse in the mouth’. I’m still not sure exactly what he meant by this, but I accepted the pay rise and worked harder to try to do a better job than before to prove I was worth the extra amount.

Self appreciation

Self appreciation is the key to more abundance:

This contrasts sharply to how I reacted later in life when I was told that I was working too hard and not earning enough money. After consideration, I immediately raised my prices by 50% and saw no drop off in work. However, there was an immediate shift to a wealthier client base.

The difference at this time was that I believed I deserved more than I was getting. There had been a shift in my ingrained beliefs from one of having to work hard for everything, to one of believing that I was worthy to receive more without any extra hard work. The result was that I could actually work less and still earn more, while still giving the customers what they expected.

For this change to occur, nothing outside of me changed. It was a change in my internal programming, my deeply ingrained beliefs, which resulted in a change to my external reality. This realization was very profound because I began to understand that if I changed this one belief and significantly improved the quality of my life, maybe I could also make other changes for my immediate and future benefit.

Personal growth and development leads to different results:

What if I was able to search out other limiting beliefs that I have been holding onto, analyze them and decide if they serve my highest good? If they don’t, I could then either rework them with my future benefit in mind or discard them altogether and replace them with new beliefs that will serve me better. This is how to have a better life. This is you accepting responsibility for your life and choosing to grow and developing your own potential.

We can all create positive permanent change in our lives by seeking out and then working on the underlying beliefs that are resonating in our body’s energetic fields which are filtering down and manifest as our physical reality. To see how this works in your life, click here to read my post on the Laws of Attraction.

Our imagination is our most potent tool: Use it for quick results

It can be the hardest thing in the world to imagine a different scenario to the one we are currently living because our mind accepts everything that we currently believe to be true, without question. However, to change any undesirable aspects of our lives, we need to do exactly that: use our imagination.

Our subconscious mind does not know the difference between fact and fiction. Therefore, whatever we constantly repeat to it, with our thoughts and actions, it will believe to be the truth and strive towards creating it. If we constantly have thoughts reinforcing that we are lazy, undeserving or stupid, our subconscious mind will believe these things and seek out situations to confirm these beliefs. If we have programmed ourselves to believe we will never have enough money, then this is the reality that will manifest.

By imagining a different scenario, a life where our goals become achievable, we will begin to override the programmes that the subconscious mind is currently holding on to.

For example: Various media constantly promote that the way to lose weight is to diet. If this were true, then there wouldn’t be so many people who jump from one diet to the next in the hope of losing weight. For some it does work- but only when the beliefs that caused the weight gain in the first place are exposed and dealt with. For many others, dieting alone will not make any difference as their subconscious mind is still holding onto the beliefs that caused them to gain the weight in the first place. It is these deeply ingrained subconscious beliefs that must be changed!

Another example: Many people are taught to work hard to achieve the material things they want in life. Sadly, there are many hard-working people who do not make a decent wage. Circumstances, be it luck, lack of education, too much education, someone else and everyone else are some of the excuses put forward as the reasons why.

Examine the beliefs you have: This will help you understand your current circumstances

We actually need to stand back and take a moment to examine the beliefs we hold on to, in the areas of life, where we do not yet have what we want or desire. What we say to ourselves consciously and what we deeply believe subconsciously can often be very different. This is the real reason why we are not yet satisfied.

It’s good to put on a brave face to show the world that everything is fine. However, if our internal dialogue does not align with this, sadly it will not become our reality. It is only when we have changed our subconscious beliefs to reflect that which is truly desired, and then act to bring these changes about that we will begin to see the manifestations in the physical world.

New thoughts are required to create any new beliefs that are desired. These, in turn, will shape more new thoughts that will be consciously and unconsciously cycled in our mind. These then over time, if repeated often enough, become our new beliefs.

Thoughts

The speed we change is up to us: Become aware of your thoughts more often

So, it is as simple as changing our mind to transform our lives. However, for most of us, the reprogramming takes a long time as we keep doing the same things as before. If we continue to hang out with the same friends, visit the same familiar places, having the same conversations etc. then it is going to be difficult for change to occur as we are still continually reinforcing the same actions, and behaviors, that got us to the place in our life that we currently find ourselves.

For real change to occur we need to step outside of our comfort zone and make changes that will align with who we see our self becoming in the future. Constantly and consistently using your imagination will really help you!

If running a marathon is a goal, sitting in a bar each night after work with friends drinking beer will not support this dream. Taking positive action by getting off the bar stool and starting training will. Some goals may well at this moment seem extra-ordinary and achievable only by those with ‘talent.’ However, anyone with talent has usually put in many years of dedicated hard work to become extraordinary! Success is achieved through passion and desire and applying ourselves to tasks and never quitting. This applies to everything in our lives!

It is very detrimental to our overall wellbeing to be constantly denying our dreams. It is a dis-ease eating away at our body and mind and reinforces feelings of low self-worth. A dream of running the marathon but not doing anything to fulfill that dream creates thoughts like ‘I’m so lazy’, ‘I could never do that’, ‘I’m useless’. These thoughts when repeated over and over each night while sitting on the bar stool are our reality. We have manifested our deepest beliefs that we have created for our self.


Our life experiences is our choice: Are you happy with your current choices?

We were not born with these beliefs. We came into this world with our mind blank, waiting for instructions to write the programmes, (create the beliefs), to form the person we will become. If we can remember that we are the creator of the content of our own lives, by choosing which programmes to accept, we can choose thoughts that will give us the experiences we desire. Positive action must then follow the desires we have to realize our dreams, or they will just remain dreams.

We are like biological computers, only vastly more complex. However, the same principles apply. Put a rubbish program in and get rubbish out. We can download new programs (learn new things), get software upgrades and go in for repairs. In addition, we can contract viruses and install anti-virus programmes. We can also delete information we no longer want.

For most of us, deleting programmes is not easy, as we generally hold on to the things that have had a strong emotional effect on us. Memories can be strong within us because of the raw power of the emotions they bring up within us.

It is easier to overwrite negative thoughts with new experiences that are uplifting, that bring out the positive emotions within us instead of continuing to focus our energy on trying to overcome them. This can be as simple as turning on a light to illuminate a dark space, or as difficult as using a match to light up a vast dark cavern. The strength of the illumination will be as strong as the focus we direct towards it.

Take action

So, what are you going to do now? Stop blaming others or circumstances and create the life you desire

By constantly remembering and seeking out experiences that bring us happiness, joy, and love we will be raising our vibration above feelings of hurt, anger, and fear. Over time this process will not eliminate the experienced hurt of the past but it will lessen the emotional attachment to the experience to the extent that one day we will be able to look back on the past and say, oh well, that was then! I am no longer that person and that experience did contribute to who I am now. Therefore, I needed to have that experience to help me get to where I am now.

It is what we term our ‘negative’ life experiences that give us the most opportunities for change, and therefore growth. They are actually working for us in exactly the proportion to which we think they are working against us. They can propel us towards being more flexible and open to experience more of what life has to offer.

If we only focus on the problems at hand, we will be unable to see the benefits that are accumulating through our experiences.

We can use emotions to our advantage. It is good to laugh, cry and to love…… If we approach everything with love, we will receive love in return. Approach others with anger or hate and see what reaction is returned! This is just the law of attraction at work in our lives.

The process of change does take time so we should not be concerned with not seeing immediate results. Happy thoughts, smiling at children and patting the cat for a week, is not going to wipe out 10 years of anger, fear, or pessimism. Our energy will still be reflecting the accumulated total of all past beliefs that we have had.

Give it time, and you will see positive results!

Please leave any thoughts or experiences that you wish to share in the comments section below. As always, I would love to hear from you.

Shared with love and respect,

Andrew

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  1. You are so 100% spot on! I know that how I feel, really determines how my life plays out. I tend to be a positive person, and with that brings positive results. I guess, that is why I don’t understand why so many want to live in negativity and not strive for the good in life. It’s a blame game for them, which really does not result in happiness.

    1. Hi Leahrae. Thanks for your support. It’s easy to look at those trapped in negativity and wonder why they choose to remain there. However, we are not walking in their shoes and so cannot possibly know why motivates them to remain ‘down there.’ All we can do is offer support and encouragement, as long as we are not giving our energy away, and wait until the timing is right for them to want to snap out of it. We will all arrive at the same destination eventually, which is our spiritual home, however, some choose to play in 3D reality longer than others. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. Kind regards,
      Andrew

  2. Hi Andrew,

    Another great read – Thank you for that!

    I think self-appreciation is hard to come by. It’s the balance of trying to be a better person without bringing yourself down.

    Marvel in your accomplishments but also acknowledge your downfalls right?

    I appreciate all of the tips and ideas you have outlined here and will continue to use these thoughts as a means to grow myself and my self-love!

    Cheers,
    Kahlua

    1. Hi Kahlua. Thanks for your kind words. Yes, acknowledge our downfalls, but only in the sense that we can learn from them and use this information to rise up even higher than before! There is never, ever, ever, any reason for you or anyone else to talk to themselves in a negative way! Never! We are all students here, learning about life, and if there is something we are not happy about with ourselves, we can learn and then change it. We all feel better when we are positively encouraged by others, so why would we ever want to talk negatively about ourselves. Self-love and appreciation will magically transform anyone’s life for the better. Try it! Written with love and appreciation for the part you play in this life’s game, Andrew

  3. What an amazing article Andrew! I am in total agreement with you on your position that it is left to us to make the necessary changes with in ourselves in order to grow, bring improvement, and prosper in every aspect in our lives. For many years I have used my creativity and positive thinking to achieve the goals I’ve set for myself. I spent 35 years in a successful outside sales career, and I can truly attribute that success, by looking at myself in the mirror each morning and stating out loud what results I expected from a sales call, prior to making that specific sales call, and almost 100% of the time, what I verbally stated as the result, became the real-life result. I could tell you some interesting stories about that! So, your absolutely right, your mind doesn’t distinguish between real and unreal. Thanks.

    1. Hi Terry. It’s great that you have been using the power of positive creation to influence your life in a positive way for so many years now. Our mind is such an amazing thing, and yet most people have no idea how to use it to their advantage. I would be interested in hearing some of your ‘interesting’ stories. haha
      All the best,
      Andrew

  4. I feel like when you begin to align with your truest and best self, the Universe and circumstances certainly offer you indications along your journey that can support and signify to you that you are on the right path. I feel like this is that post for me. This past year, circumstances had me questioning and reframing my beliefs. I did the work in the book “The Six Pillars of Self Esteem” which I deem all kinds of wisdom. Self responsibility and respect for oneself is imperative in aligning your beliefs. To know who you are and that you have value to the world and have a right to express and harness that value is something that, if captivated and implemented by more amounts of people, could really change the world. Your writing about choices really resonated with me as I guide my six year old son with his behaviour and making choices and the relativity those choices have in how we shape our lives. It has been an advantageous pursuit to learn about the subconscious mind and the stored beliefs ingrained from previous generations that may not prove to serve our best, individual, gifted selves. I really appreciate the content you are writing as it provides real insights and easy to understand concepts and information. Thank you!

    1. Hey Rebecca. Once again I appreciate your insightful comments and continued support. I believe your son is very fortunate and will grow up to be a wise and respected person due to the solid foundation that you are encouraging him to build for himself. By becoming aware that we always have choices, we can at all times use discretion to make the best possible choices and in this way, we can all contribute to making the world a better place for all life. All the best to you. With love and respect,
      Andrew

  5. I don’t understand everything here in this topic but I think this post challenges me to be a positive thinker in all circumstances in life.
    I just want to ask a question related to shameful experiences which anyone just cannot shake it and leave it at once. They are circumstances that challenges our pride and dignity and so I for one wanted hibernate if possible and let time go by. I know this is a paralysis to me because I am thinking that no one will believe in me and until there is someone who believes in me that I could believe in myself.
    How could I deal with this life’s challenge? I just can’t forget it.

    1. Hi Jimmy. Thank you for sharing your story. It is important that you believe in yourself first. If you cannot believe in yourself you cannot expect anyone else to believe in you. You are strong and you need to focus your thoughts on a positive future. The past is gone now, and it is not relevant to who you want to become in the future. So if you start focusing your thoughts on the strong, confident, successful person you want to become, with time you will achieve it.
      I wish you lots of success and happiness for your future. Kind regards,
      Andrew

  6. Thank you very much for this article Andrew! It made me realize 2 things that I wasn’t aware of up until now, which had a negative effect on me. Keep on the good work!!!

    1. Hi Stoil. Thanks for reading my post. I am happy that my words were able to help you realize some important stuff. Best wishes for your future. Kind regards,
      Andrew

  7. Great information on the subject of valuing ourselves and choosing to move past old programming. T. Harv Eker talked a good deal on this as well as well as Tony Robbins. I have been a firm advocate that people really can change and achieve everything they desire in life. I like what you said about “being happy” with our choices. I know many people who live out of regret, and having been there myself, it is never a good place to be.

    Great information, and Benjamin Franklin would be proud of your site name!

    1. Hi Jacob. many thanks for the positive reinforcement of my content. It is a joy to write posts that are able to inspire others to strive for success as you know. I consider that ‘being happy’ with our choices should be the main consideration directing how we live our lives. As you say, it’s no fun living with regret! Have a great life. Kind regards,
      Andrew

  8. Hi Andrew,
    This is the second post that I have read of yours and I’m happy that I found this. Quite often I’ll come across a blog and read one post and not go back to it but your website has a bunch of great info on it and I’ll be adding it to my bookmark bar for future reads.

    I recently was speaking with a friend of mine who was tired of her old job and started to visualize a new job but the problem that I could see was that she was quite negative about everything that was going on in life and she could not see forward because of this. One day my friend read an article that had some similar points that you had mentioned and the moment that my friend stopped blaming others or circumstances things began to change. Move forward just one month and her manifestation looks like it is becoming a reality. You se my friend wanted to be in a job that was paying 120k per year and have more time with her kids. Well, to her delight and as music to my ears her friend was promoted in a travel company to the national CEO and it now looks like there is an offer for a position that has a base of 120k and will allow her to work from home 3 days a week. It’s amazing what a positive attitude can bring!

    1. Hi Jordan. I’m happy you like my writing and that you will visit again. It’s for people like you that I write 🙂
      As your friend discovered, creating a better life begins by changing the way we think. Unfortunately, the fact that we are the absolute creators of the content of our own lives is not taught to us when we are young and therefore it is not understood by the majority of people who are alive today. But the same message comes through loud and clear from all of the past masters: You are creating your life based on the subconscious beliefs you have that are determining how you think, feel, and then act! Let that sink in for a while, and then tell me, ‘Do you ever want to have another negative thought for the rest of your life knowing that it will just come back to bite you in the ass?’
      Shared with love and respect for all beings,
      Andrew

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