In the habit of making excuses? Learn why and how to break this self-defeating habit

There is abundance for all, enough money and resources for everyone to have everything that they desire. So why are we all not healthy, wealthy, happy, and wise?

It is our thoughts that either make us poor, sad, sick, wealthy, healthy, or happy. The nature of energy, via The Law of Attraction, ensures that it is we alone who create the current circumstances of our life.

If we chose to believe absolutely in abundance for ourselves, then this is the reality that would become manifest in our lives. So, what has gone wrong with us that we are currently still wanting more abundance in many aspects of our lives?

My life is not perfect: I have to blame someone or something for it!

Let’s use money as an example of how the natural laws of the universe control our lives.

If we took all the wealth in the world and divided it equally amongst all the inhabitants of the world, it would only take a few years for the distribution of wealth to be back where it was in the first place. This is because everyone has exactly the perfect amount of wealth, love, free time, friends, etc. that they have created by their most prevalent beliefs up to this point in time.

This means that everything is currently perfect according to what each of us has created by way of our thought patterns. But how many of us understand this and can see the perfection in this flawless reciprocal agreement?

If you feel the world is not perfect in any way at all, then you do not know that you are responsible for having created the conditions of your life- absolutely. And we tend to take the easier path of blaming others for everything that is wrong in our lives.

It’s my husband’s fault for not making enough money, I was born into a poor family, I was bullied at school, etc….. However, it is only when we stop blaming everything outside of ourselves and begin to take personal responsibility for our current situation that we can begin to make a positive difference in our lives.

“Rationalization is a process of not perceiving reality,

but of attempting to make reality fit one’s emotions.”

Ayn Rand.

The past is gone and dwelling on it is not useful and can actually be counter-productive. Instead, we could take control and become responsible for directing ourselves to achieve the things that we want. What is wrong with society, in general, that we have been taught to always be looking outside of ourselves to explain why WE ARE NOT LIVING THE LIFE WE WANT?

How much closer do we get to achieving our desires and goals by sitting back and complaining about something not being right, whining about the unjustness of it all, and being a ‘victim’ of whatever drama we are currently buying into?

By believing in any of these, and many other excuses, we are thinking that we deserve more or deserve better than we are getting. We don’t actually deserve anything, and the uncompromising universal Law of Attraction says that we have ‘the perfect life’….. according to what we have created for ourselves.

By being absorbed in making excuses about things we forget that our focus is better utilized by making the best of every situation, regardless of the outcome.

We each need to wake up and realize that we will get more, be more, and do more when we actually do something to create it for ourselves! And focusing on the good things we already have in our lives with gratitude is a good way to begin attracting more of what we desire into our lives.

Excuses take away our power to be in control of our own lives!

By coming to understand our excuses we will gain insights as to why we continue to behave in ways that are self-defeating.

A classic example may be that ‘I don’t have enough time.’ So, where has your time gone? Are you not gifted with the same amount of time as everyone else on the planet, 1440 minutes every day? How is it possible for some people to get everything they want to accomplish done, while others cannot?

See this excuse for what it is- a cover for the real reasons which may include, ‘I don’t want to do it,’ or ‘there are other things I would rather do!’

Many of you may be sitting there and thinking, ‘yes, but my situation is different and cannot be resolved that easily.’ It is true that when we, and those around us, are in a low vibrational state that it can be difficult to break through our habits to change our responses to stuff that we let negatively impact our lives.

However, making excuses for why things have not turned out as we wanted is a way of avoiding responsibility for the current circumstances of our life. Excuses are basically a way of placing the blame of an internal problem on an external condition!

Any time we rationalize why we didn’t do something, couldn’t do something, shouldn’t do something, or wouldn’t do something we are preventing ourselves from living more of our potential. By inventing reasons to defend our behavior or lack of action, we are trying to blame our circumstances on anything other than ourselves.

It becomes easy to make excuses for how inadequate and incapable we are due to all the weaknesses we perceive ourselves as having. Fear is the basis of most excuses– fear of failure, fear of change and uncertainty, fear of responsibility, fear of embarrassment and making mistakes, etc.

Facing and overcoming your fears is the only way to overcome this self-defeating habit!

Why do we make excuses? And how do I stop making excuses?

Making excuses gives us the illusion of security and lets us believe that we are somehow in control when the truth is the opposite of this. The fear that prevents us from doing anything is keeping us a prisoner within our own comfort zone, and the fear will remain until we decide to confront it and break free from our previous limits.

By not challenging ourselves to constantly reach new heights, we will just continue to get more of the same stuff, day in and day out, and therefore we will never know what we are actually capable of!

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”

Benjamin Franklin.

So….. It’s time to ask yourselves “What excuses am I making and why am I making them?”

We can learn a lot about ourselves by becoming aware of the excuses we regularly make. They are our teachers and can help us identify our weaknesses and the flaws in our basic subconscious programs. They can point us in the best direction so we can heal ourselves from the restrictions they have had on our ability to progress in life in any meaningful and positive ways.

Will you look back on the past with regret that you did not have the courage to peruse your dreams?

Or will you seek to gain insights into that which currently frightens you so that you can move forward with courage, wisdom, and understanding and create the life you desire?

We can all benefit now by asking ‘what am I settling for because of the fears that I am currently holding on to?’

Excuse = My life is hard. Solution = My life is getting better!

As mentioned, we begin by taking responsibility, from this moment, for all the failures and mistakes that we consider we have made. Then we can turn our attention to the strengths we have which will help us achieve a feeling of empowerment.

It is by realizing that our lives are not built on luck or good fortune, but rather on our ability to change and adapt to make the best of any situation, that we can move forward with confidence knowing that we alone are in control of our future.

We begin the process of positive change by identifying the difference between who we are now and who we want to become, or what we have now and what it is we desire. This information can then be used to create a plan to take us toward our preferred future reality.

So, by identifying what steps we can take now to move beyond our excuses we can chart a course to creating our preferred outcomes. This shift in perception is necessary and takes our mind away from obstacles and excuses and focuses our potential on solutions and opportunities– and where our attention is focused is where our incredible brains will provide solutions.

Optimism, persistence, confidence, and patience are all qualities that successful people have cultivated to help them reach their goals, and there is no reason why we cannot choose to cultivate these qualities within ourselves.

We are born to thrive: However, most of us are programmed to just survive!

We will benefit by cultivating a feeling of faith in our ability to grow. We need to know that it is our birthright to realize our full potential. It is within us now to surpass all the challenges in our lives.

However, we need to take the necessary steps to make the positive changes that are available to us. It has to start in the present moment because, in truth, this is the only moment there is, the always present, present moment.

“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.”

Lao Tzu

By focusing on the now moment and making one change at a time, then reinforcing these changes through time, we will rise out of negativity and our life will be improved. This is The Law of Attraction and it uncompromisingly returns to us what we put out.

Become aware of the creator you already are to CONSCIOUSLY create the life of your dreams

It is indisputable and perfect that we always have the life that we ourselves have created. Most people on the planet today are not taking advantage of the knowledge that they can improve their lives simply by adding higher vibrational frequencies to all that they do. By this, I mean to choose love over fear, anger, or hate AT ALL TIMES.

It’s important to realize that we can all live a life filled with love, joy, and fun, and start to make the necessary changes in our thought patterns to set ourselves up for the future WE really want.

This may seem like an enormous task, and it is one that continues for the rest of our lives, whether we like it or not. Thinking that we need to spend the rest of our life working on this, can seem daunting and unachievable. However, if we start now, this very moment, to choose ‘positive’ thoughts instead of ‘negative’ thoughts we will be ahead of where we were in the previous moment. So, by focusing on what we can do in each moment to make a ‘positive’ difference, the task becomes easier and achievable.

If we miss some moments and slip back into old habits and patterns of thinking, so what? We should never punish ourselves for it. Remember, we are learning something new, and trying to replace old habits and old patterns of behaviors with something new takes time. Any form of self-punishment only creates more negativity, whereas accepting that we are learning to adjust our patterns of behavior and rewarding ourselves with kind thoughts when we succeed (or momentarily slip backward), will uplift us and inspires us to continue.

Learning new things always takes time and we cannot expect to be perfect from the first moment. As with riding a bike, we will initially lack the confidence and experience to do the task perfectly. We may wobble at first, fall off a few times, and maybe skin our knees. However, with practice, we can become an expert.

The length of time required to exhibit absolute confidence in riding a bike will depend on the amount of practice put into it. For some, it will take less than a day (maybe a few hours of constant practice), for others it will take a month (10 minutes of practice a day), and for others……. up to them! the point is that we are not all the same, but should stick with any task we want to achieve UNTIL WE ACHIEVE IT!

How much time you are willing to put into your personal-development determines the results that you will achieve. So, how important is your future to you?

Any road towards that which is new to us poses challenges, obstacles, and problems. So what! By not beginning the challenge of personal growth and development you are condemning yourself to a life of stagnation. Whereas, any steps challenged along the path are a success!

Are you using this moment to create a better future for yourself, or are you willing to just settle for more of the same familiar content in your daily lives?

I wish you well on your journey of growth and sincerely hope that you use your huge potential to create the life you desire for yourself.

I would love to read about your experiences in regard to how your personal excuses have previously prevented you from achieving your goals, and how you have overcome your own self-imposed limitations. Please leave any comments below.

Shared with love and respect for all beings,

Andrew