Change Is Scary But So Is Staying The Same: How Much Are You Hurting?

Everything that happens outside of ourselves, (our external environment,) that solicits a reaction from us is an opportunity for us to learn more about ourselves.

We are able to learn so much just by becoming aware of how we react to different situations, different people, and the different environments we interact with.

So how is life working out for you? Are you currently having a wonderfully fulfilling experience?

Do the people, locations, and situations where you spend your time make you feel uplifted or drain you of vital energy?

In other words, is your current lifestyle supporting your overall quest for a healthy, abundant, and fulfilling life, or would you prefer it if some things were different?

Change Is Scary But So Is Staying The Same

Our Life Circumstances Are The Manifestation Of Our Past Thoughts

It’s important to realize that it is our own subconscious programming that compels us to seek out situations that fulfill our deep-seated beliefs about ourselves and about life in general.

Our beliefs/programming are just a collection of ideas that we have adopted from those with influence over us as we were growing up. Some of us refine these beliefs over time to incorporate new ideas and thoughts that we have. But for the majority of people, these core programs remain buried deep below the conscious level of thought.

If we were programmed to believe that we are somehow unworthy and that life is hard, then our subconscious mind will ‘feed’ us with thoughts that unconsciously guide our lives so that we are never content, fulfilled, or abundant in any significant way.

If this is the case, we will unconsciously be surrounding ourselves with situations, people, and events that bring us down and deplete our vital energy. So we will come home tired and depleted each day.

Why would we do this to ourselves? Often because it is ‘comfortable’ for us to feel this way. Our subconscious programming tells us that this is what we ‘deserve.’ However, the reality is that we don’t deserve anything. This is just the temporary life situation we have accepted for ourselves- based on the beliefs we formed in the past, which caused us to form self-limiting habits. 

Our lives can begin to improve immensely when we realize that we don’t have to keep believing these old beliefs, and continuing with the same old habits. So, if we are not happy with any aspects of our lives, we can choose to take steps and begin changing our thoughts now, to ultimately form new beliefs, which will result in creating a new and better life experience for ourselves.

To learn how to quickly and easily upgrade our thoughts, check out my post How Can I hack My Brain For Success!

You Can Only Receive As Much As Your Subconscious Mind Thinks You Are Worth!

It may not seem so at times, but we always have options available to us. For example, if you are not happy about going to work every day, you may want to consider changing jobs. It is soul-destroying to wake up and think ‘another day doing stuff I wish I didn’t have to do,’ and another 4 days of this until my day off. Only 45 more weeks of this torture until my annual holidays!

What impact do you think these repeated negative thoughts have on your state of mind and general physical well-being?

If your relationship is not making you jump with joy, not making you warm and fuzzy on the inside, then do something about it. Why do we think that it’s OK to settle for situations that continually make us unhappy? That’s not what life is about! However, often we consider that ‘the devil we know is better than the devil we don’t know.’ Maybe this is just another example of a false belief that we are holding onto that affects our ability to be happy. I’m not suggesting you leave your partner, but find ways to make your situation better….. because your happiness depends on it!

Our acceptance of bad situations, our procrastination, and our bad habits are ways for us to not fully commit to life, and they have a significant negative impact on our overall life experience! If this is your experience, maybe it’s time for a change, time you started giving yourself a better life experience….. What do you think?

We ALL have the ability to create fantastic lives for ourselves. However, first, we need to accept responsibility by realizing that our current situation is our own creation. And from now on, we can become aware of, and start making better choices for ourselves. It all starts NOW with YOU believing that YOUR LIFE HAS ENORMOUS VALUE and that YOU DESERVE to have a great life experience! The choice is yours, and yours alone.

 Don’t Let Fear Of The Unknown Hold You Back From Living A Better Life

Our desire to change and our motives for change are either pulling us forward, toward something more pleasurable or pushing us forward by the desire to avoid that which is painful. If we are currently feeling dissatisfied with some aspects of our life but are not yet ready to change, it is either because we are not in enough pain, or the perceived benefits of doing something different are not yet great enough to compel us into action.

Most people tend to gravitate towards that with which they are familiar, but we never learn anything new by doing this. If we continue to do the same things, our life will tend to continue relatively unchanged into the future. Is this what you want for yourself, more of what you currently have?

Unfortunately, most of us resist change until our present situation is so bad that we have no choice but to try something different. So when we can no longer tolerate the amount of pain we are feeling, we begrudgingly may move in a different direction and risk being exposed to that which is unknown to us.

Or are you willing to face your fears and take a new road in the hope of creating a better future for yourself?

How Can You Create A Better Life?

Everything is always changing. This is just the nature of life! And this is great because every day is a new day and with it, we are offered many opportunities and possibilities that we didn’t have yesterday. If we can learn to embrace the unknown, with eager anticipation, I guarantee that you will soon be living a better life.

The future is filled with many different roads to choose from. If we find ourselves feeling stuck, we should just choose the best one and start moving. This is because there are no wrong directions in life and there is no such thing as a mistake, just more opportunities for us to learn new things.

Sure, there may be times when things don’t work out the way we hoped that they would, and that is OK as long as we learn from the experience. We can then pick a different road to travel for a while, and then we can change direction as often as we like.

However, if we know where we want to end up, choosing the best path becomes a whole lot easier!

We are fortunate that we have the gift of free will, and therefore the Universal Mind/Prime Creator/God never judges our choices, but we do need to accept responsibility for what we do, and according to The Law of Attraction, there are always consequences. The consequences of our thoughts, words, and actions are for us and will manifest in our life, either negatively or positively depending on the actions chosen. So, it pays to always think, ’is what I am about to do going to take me closer to being the person that I want to be?

Is what I am doing going to improve my life, and the lives of others around me, or is it going to reduce my quality of life?

Once we lose the fear we have regarding change and embrace variety and new experiences in our lives, our lives will suddenly become a whole lot brighter and larger than they were before. Then even more opportunities for change that we could not previously see will present themselves for our consideration.

The law of attraction says that we attract more of what we are, and someone embracing growth and learning will attract more growth and expansion into their lives.

Learning The Rules Helps You Understand How You Can Win

It’s important to always be considering what is best for us and for the environment in which we are interacting, (family, friends, work, social activities, etc.) With this in mind, it’s always beneficial for us to choose thoughts, words, and actions that will uplift us and those around us and take us above the ‘middle line.’

What Is ‘The Middle Line?’

Visualize a line drawn horizontally across the center of a blank piece of paper. This line is where we are now. It represents our accumulation of energy, or vibration, up to this point in time, which can be thought of as our current state of well-being, or our personal vibrational frequency.

‘Positive’ thoughts and actions will elevate us above this line and enhance our energy, whereas any ‘negative’ thoughts we have and actions we take will reduce our energy below this line which results in a lowering of the quality of our life experience. So this line is constantly fluctuating to always be in perfect tune with every thought we have, every word we speak, and every action we take.

Imagine if we could be aware of this all the time and use it as a gauge to improve our life?…… Well, the good news is that we can!

We can start now by becoming more aware of our thoughts and then assess if they will help us in a positive way or will impact negatively on our energy/vibration.

Most changes are very subtle and not necessarily felt by us, however, their effect is always cumulative. So, if we can become aware of our energy in relation to our health and well-being, we will always have the opportunity to help ourselves.

Thinking and acting positively at all times not only helps us but also has a positive effect on all those around us. So if we want your family life to improve, we need to begin by changing ourselves into a more loving positive role model.

Most of us are aware of the elevated sense of well-being we feel when we have done something to positively help ourselves or others. This is our energy level being raised above the position where it was before.

Conversely, when we do something that does not benefit us we may feel a resulting decrease in well-being. Often people with low self-esteem will choose negative thoughts and actions as a form of self-punishment, thereby reinforcing what they already feel about themselves.

The Middle line can be used for decision-making…. Is what I am doing, thinking, and feeling going to elevate my energy, or lower it? What can I do to bring about positive change in my life NOW?

It may be as simple as a kind thought, a smile, an action instead of inaction, or setting something in place that will continue for a longer period of time. A good place to start is to feel happy and share that with others. Happiness can be contagious and is never decreased when shared therefore elevating the energy levels of those we share it with.

Constantly Thinking Positively Will Change Your Life

Two people can be doing what may seem to be the same action and yet achieve very different results on an energy level. The resulting effect on their middle line from any thought or activity is dependent on the energetic intention of the person doing the action.

There may be two colleagues working side by side in a factory assembling some electronic components. One may be there because it is the only job they could get, and they needed the income. Their thoughts may be consistently tuned into what was on TV last night, what is for dinner, and what the kids are going to do on the weekend……

The other may spend his/her time thinking that the product the component goes into is of high value and important for many people, so they will be considerate and do the best job they can all the time. Their attention will be focused on taking pride in doing a good job.

Which finished product would you rather buy? I know which one I would prefer.

The answer should make us think about the activities we do each day and how much focused loving attention we are putting into our daily lives. If the answer is ‘not much,’ then it may be beneficial for us to make some changes in either the things we are doing, that we are not giving our full attention to, or we could change the way we think about the activities we are doing.

Some activities are essential for living and cannot be avoided, such as eating. So when preparing food, choose healthy food over food with low nutritional value. Appreciate that you have food to eat and are able to feed your family because so many in the world are starving every day.

Give your loving attention to choosing, preparing, and presenting the food as it will be providing nourishment to those who consume it.

Even if they do not recognize that it has been selected, prepared, and presented with love and appreciation, the food will still be energetically better for them because of the loving intent that you put into its preparation.

Isn’t it better to sit and share a meal with people who are in a positive frame of mind compared to a bunch of angry unhappy people?

Life is simple really. What you put out, you will get back! If you want a better life, just choose to have a better life and start doing the things now that will attract to you what you want in the future.

This means changing your thoughts, words, and actions, starting now to align with how you see your future-self living. We must first ‘be’ what we want to ‘become,’ and then through  The Law of Attraction, our desired outcomes have to become our reality!

I would love you to leave any thoughts you have on changing your life for the better in the comments section below.

Shared with much love and respect for all beings who are playing The Game of Life.

Andrew